Unexpected call from my JW Sister - Unbelievable Hypocrisy!

chichimama_2

I posted a long experience earlier today along with an email letter from my sister. Sent to me back in January informing me she was going to be shunning me.

Had not heard a word from her for 6 months then

My sister called out of the blue one evening last month. Why?

A little info first:

she has been shunning me since January.

Our non JW family on our dad's side has a family reunion every year.

It is held in Texas. Back in the spring I made reservations for hubby and I to attend

and made plans with dad to drive from Ky to Arkansas to ride together to the reunion with them.

Okay, so I get this call from her on Sunday, Memorial Day weekend.

She beat around the bush a little and finally said that she didn't know if we were planning on going to the reunion or not .

I informed her that we were and that we were riding down with dad.

Then she told me that they were her family too and she was coming too and would be meeting dad in Ar and following us down.

She already knew what the arrangements were when she called me! she just wanted to feel me out in view of our status.

I said Michele, "How do you plan on explaining to our non JW family that you are shunning me."

She got real quiet for a few seconds then said,

"Well, I guess I'll have to bring my Bible"

I said "Yes, you should bring your Bible and show them how you justify shunning your sister!" and I hung up.

We had company walking in the door any minute and she is calling my phone over and over. I tell my hubby I don't want to talk to her.

After a couple of calls to my phone she starts calling my husband's phone.He never answered.

I go ahead and listen to a message she left on my phone so she won't be interupting our evening . She said,

"Sheila, I wasn't really planning on shunning you at the family reunion. I thought you would understand"
I went into orbit!
I started dialing her back and headed to a room to say what I wanted privately.My husband says, your calling her now? I said "yes, I just have one thing to say."
She answers the phone and I tell her,
"you have been shunning me for the past six months and if you show up at the family reunion you will continue to shun me

or you will be a F*@#N LIAR!"

She hung up on me, thats all I had to say anyway.

I am not going to play along with her and let her lie and be a hypocrite to the family.
If she believes that way ,she should be proud to treat me the same as she is now in front of family.

I found out from Dad when we got to his house that she backed out of coming. She said she would just plan to come one year when I am not there!
Wow!
Well I think I should plan to go to the family reunion every year from now.

Ranchette/Sheila

baltar447

She's just proving that she is chicken $h!t and doesn't have the balls or confidence to defend her position to your non-JW family.

Ding

It seems to me that she isn't all that sure she has been doing the right thing by shunning you.

Maybe that's what she's trying to tell you.

Scully

My JW family does this too.

They want to put on a good show for the non-JW relatives, you know, so they don't look like unreasonable fanatics that shun their own children!! If it weren't for the fact that my never-Baptized™ siblings chip in to get them an anniversary gift every year, I'd probably never hear from my parents apart from a perfunctory 2-paragraph email to say thanks for the gift and our JW lives are still as dull as dried up dog $h!t on crackers.

OUTLAW

LOL!!@Scully!!..

our JW lives are still as dull as dried up dog $h!t on crackers.

...................... ...OUTLAW

renderme

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I have 2 JW sisters but so far they haven't shunned me. I was never baptized, but raised a JW. I fear that one day they WILL decide that being associated with me is "bad", but I hope they have better sense than that. I know you love your sister and it just sucks that this religion puts these people in a position where they have to choose their family over the "organization". What I don't understand is these people do not shun wordlings..most work with and have lunch with people not in their religion and have no problem associating with family members who have never been to a KH...yet just because someone has learned about the religion and then chooses NOT to be a part of the cult, they completely turn their backs on that person. It makes no logical sense at all. You're still the same person and have done nothing wrong! They treat strangers at the door with more love and respect than their own flesh and blood. Heartbreaking...and she SHOULD feel ashamed for how she is treating you. I'm sure deep down she knows this is wrong.

chichimama_2

She learned everything she knows from my mother. She is acting like

There are some horrible and sometimes twistedly funny posts about my moms communication with me when

I first left over 12 years ago found under my old Ranchette ID.

They are classic and right down the line with what so many here experience.

usualusername

I feel sorry for you sister. She is in a cult and does not know.

Many posters here have done much worse before they awoke.............

Morbidzbaby

It still amazes me that when something like this happens, they cannot see their hypocrisy. Associating with you at a family reunion is not "necessary family business". Therefore, she would have to explain why she is shunning you. This causes discomfort and a bad name for the org in the eyes of non-JWs. So what is she to do? Bravely uphold her organization's standards that are in no way based on the Bible? Or pretend like she hasn't been ignorning you for half a year in order to make HERSELF more comfortable?

Meh. She chose to just not go. Make sure you're there every year so that the family can see that she isn't going BECAUSE you're there and she isn't "allowed" to speak to you. The best anti-witness is the one she is giving all on her own.

chichimama_2

I have a hard time because I have tried so hard to help her with all that.

I know she is mislead, confused, and a captive of a cult.

I feel bad for her to a point.

I gave her all the tools she needed to free herself mentally but she never tried.

The saying,"You can lead a horse to water but you cant make him/her drink" is true in this case.

Ranchette/Sheila

Unexpected call from my JW Sister - Unbelievable Hypocrisy!

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