Sheila, I just sent you a PM.
Unexpected call from my JW Sister - Unbelievable Hypocrisy!
by chichimama_2 21 Replies latest jw friends
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Paralipomenon
"Sheila, I wasn't really planning on shunning you at the family reunion. I thought you would understand"
Amazing. This is pretty much admission that the shunning arangement is embarassing. One would think a Witness would be proud of an guideline from Jehovah.
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I quit!
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this nonsense Chichimama (Around here I'd get slapped for calling a women that) anyway the Watchtower turn people into conniving idiots and the sad thing is they don't even understand how stupid they are behaving. To them somehow it is defending the truth or keeping the organization clean. All I can say is that you are not alone. Most of us here are dealing with the insanity that is the Watchtower.
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awaken2004
OMG!!! I would be pissed too Sheila. Such cowardly hypocrites!
My family had an anniversary party several years ago while my father was df'ed and there were non witness family memebers there. I remember my non-jw cousin (has a big mouth and this time I welcomed it) was telling different people at the party just what he thought of the dubs ignoring his uncle. My dad was very hurt by it too and was sitting out on the front porch in defiance, I think. But, sadly, he is now back in the fold defending the org. Thankfully though my family doesn't shun me although sometimes I wish they would. J/k I don't mean to make lite of the situation . . .
I'm so sorry you are going thru this. Hopefully one day they'll come to their senses.
LOL @ I Quit's Chichimama comment. Too funny.
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chichimama_2
Finaly Awake, I sent a PM back
Awaken 2004, I have a sense of humor about it all too. I vacilate between emotions of anger, sadness, and laughter at how crazy it all is.
I quit laughing @
Chichimama (Around here I'd get slapped for calling a women that)
I have an 10 year old Chihuahua.That's where that name came from. I am stuck with it I think.
lol( The ID not the dog)
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Ranchette/Sheila
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nugget
My dumb ass sister has shunned me for over a year and is pretty much on the same page as your sister. It is hypocritical of her to change the rules because she doesn't want to look bad at a reunion. I would go every year and let her decide when to stop playing games. After all if she was obeying the rules she shouldn'rt be eating with you anyway. Shunning makes witnesses look stupid, rude and cruel, they are comfortable being self righteous in their own little cult but feel uncomfortable wheh others might judge them. This should tell them that this is wrong.
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JWdaughter
I think it would have been fun to be at the reunion and then when your sister is busy "not shunning " you in a large family group, you could have asked her-Sheila, you told me that you were shunning me since I didn't attend your church anymore. Why are you speaking to me today?
I know, coulda, woulda, shoulds. Just a little fantasy. Sorry about the dumb sister. I am lucky, mine left with no looking back.
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outsmartthesystem
I agree with Baltar and Ding. She has serious doubts as to the validity of shunning.....but her mind is so controlled that ultimately she is going to do what she is told. She knows your family will think she is nuts and she knows she cannot reasonably defend her actions. All JWs are hypocrites. They shun when it is convenient for them.
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outsmartthesystem
"They want to put on a good show for the non-JW relatives, you know, so they don't look like unreasonable fanatics that shun their own children!!"
Isn't it amazing that JWs are told to keep themselves separate from the world......and they claim they do so by not celebrating holidays and by dressing modestly and by following the "bible's counsel on shunning" etc etc. But then they are also told to be as normal as possible so they don't come across as fanatics. It is a circular conundrum that cannot be solved.
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jamiebowers
This reminds me of the last family reunion on my jw mom's side. She's one of 11 children, and only three, (including her), are jws. The vast majority of the younger generations of those three who are jws never were baptized, df'd or faded. Anyway, of the 100 or so relatives who showed up, not one was a jw. And every aunt, uncle, cousin, etc., who I had a chance to talk to, told me how terrible they thought it was that my mom has been shunning me for all these years.
I wasn't disappointed that my mom failed to appear, because I didn't want to see her husband, who was abusive to my brother and me when we were children. But I did feel bad that none of the other jws in the family came. From what I heard, they had permission from the elders to attend, because the whole affair was held at a public venue. If it would've been at a df'd relative's house, then they were forbidden to attend. But it seems my mom is the queen bee in that crowd, so everyone else was afraid to be there, since she chose not to go. It would've been fun to watch the "worldly" relatives watch the jw relatives shun the df'd, faded, and unbaptized jws.