oh, and PS to Nellie --- if you are having a 'flare' and just can't get things done --- SO WHAT?? Let them go. Don't let OTHER PEOPLE make you feel lazy -- they don't understand.
Rest when you need it, and do what you have to do to get by, when your FM is bad. It's okay, your pain and feelings are real. Other people love to mock this particular 'invisible' illness. To hell with them! (LOL)
xo
tal