What I see is that this isn't just about sexual abuse. It is about their whole body of beliefs. Most are based on the need to keep people too busy to think for themselves or that make them afraid to think for themselves.
When a person's ability to think for themselves is limited then it makes so many unethical things happen with no response from others who know about the problem. "The elders will deal with it" or even worse "Wait on Jehovah" Just those two statements are enough to make even to most contientious or concerned JW pull back and do nothing.
- JWs die because of a flawed blood policy.
- JWs are persecuted over absurd policies like a $0.25 card that means nothing. JWs might be concerned, may have even written letters but really ar 25 cents card?
- All those repetitive talks given at meetings around the world.
- Elders who have no real education counseling people with real life problems and telling them that prayer, meetings, study and the minisitry will solve their problems rahter than tellign them to get professional help.
- Disfellowhipping people and then shunning them and if they commit suicide well... it wasn't their concern. That person was no longer a JW so he or she didn't matter any more.
The list goes on and on and on. I'm sure many of you can add a few of the problems where JWs are taught to ignore their "natural affections" and shun someone.
Even after 10 years of being out I was so scared to really startted asking those questions. What if the WTS/JWs are wrong? What if I was wrong to beleive them and like a child accept every word they said even when it made no sense.
At some point you have to stop being a child and grow up and ask the hard questions.
Most teens go through a stage of life where the big question is "Who am I?" JW teens don't go through that stage. They are told they are Jehovah's Witnesses and nothing else matters.
It is hard when you are in your 30s or 40s or 50s or even more and you have to sit down and ask yourself "Who am I?"
I will tell you a secret about that. It is hard to go through but it was actually easier to go through in my 30s than it would have been in my teens. Took less time too.