Hello leaving quietly
I am so very sorry about the situation here. My husband and I left the organization the same time, but it truly was a miracle and blessing the way it happened for us. It was answers to our prayers and "us" listening to the direction of holy spirit that was the determining factor. Yes, each of us could have made a different choice and I have to say we would not be married today if that would have happened.
I personally was asking and questioning apparantly in my heart and then expressing it, something I too never did because I was a loyal organizational person thinking thats what jehovah wanted. (wait on the FDS)
But what opened up to the BIGGEST step of enlightenement for me was that the WTBS was NOT the TRUTH. It was Jesus. " I am the WAY, the TRUTH and the Life. Noone can get to the father except through me My whole life that WT structure called themselves the truth. Even saying in the proclaimers book " The corporation (entity) was the visible representation of the lord on earth." Therefore, they had indeed put themselves in the seat of Moses playing our mediator.
Insisting the only way to make it through armaggedon was through them and I knew, just never GOT IT "Jehovah didn't dwell in a hand-made temple anymore (corporation, religion)
They also "shut up the kingdom of the heavens" to everyone since about 1935 and put you through hell if you feel the calling to partake, which is actually for everyone not just 144,000 Matthew 23: 13 John 6:31-58
This is just a few of the questions that opened up in answers from holy spirit to our family.
As far as your marriage, I'm sure you will do everything you can to try to make it work and keep peace. But let the baggage of the WT go and the guilt that comes with it. Seek the Kingdom which is the Christ and he will help you through your decisions remembering that divorce is not an unforgiveable sin.
with love
justmom