Do You Ever Look Back? Should We?

by Joe Grundy 16 Replies latest jw experiences

• 

  blondie

  George Santayana Quotes

  Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
  Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/g/georgesant101521.html#54V8Ph0XKt3tXHtr.99
• 

  just Ron

  exs are exs for a reason - I'm not a fan of second chances for failed relationships
• 

  Glander

  Today, We're looking back on August the 8th, 1964 when we were married in a little KH in Santa Barbara, CA. The marriage has done well, the religion not so much.
• 

  Joe Grundy

  Blondie: Excellent point, and I suppose that there's always a tendency to 'edit' our memories. So on one side I probably remember more of the good times. On the other, those few people close to me in whom I confided during the bad times will remember those.
• 

  Joe Grundy

  Glander: Congratulations and well done!
• 

  blindnomore

  Joe, You are in a vulnerable situation. You can easily make an emotional decision rather than rational one.

  You deserve better. You deserve someone who appreciate and love you for being who you are. My ex married a Fillipina girl but only to be dumped on the very same day she got her Permanant Resident Card. She ran off with another guy. She used my ex to get to the US and get the resident card. He spent a lot of money on her. We all saw it coming except him. I just don't want you to get hurt again.
• 

  Joe Grundy

  Well, more developments today, as in a letter from her lawyer via mine.

  Disregarding the tears and the 'little girl voice' there is no doubt that underneath it all is a shrewd and calculating mind focussed on staying in the UK and possibly financial gain on the way. And no, I'm not being too harsh here. She is quite prepared and ready to use all weapons in her arsenal.

  Just goes to show the vulnerabities of us humans, I suppose. I'm great at seeing through religious and other crap but show me a 4'10" woman in tears and I'm as vulnerable and credulous as anyone else. I think I'll send her a DA letter and ask her to shun me! (No offence intended, and no wish to make light of the very real issue of shunning).

  This is hurting a bit, right now.