Should I help my wife get the kids ready? (page 2)

aposta-Z

I personally would help.

Also for the fact that it gives you some face time with the kids just before the meeting.
That way you'll get first move once the three years old starts complaining that meetings are boring and would rather chill with Daddy at home tonight ;)

jgnat

See, I'm from the softie school. My husband is a JW. I will attend meetings on occassion, but never enough to give him "ideas". He knows what I really think. I also think non-JW relatives and partners should attend the assemblies were their loved-ones get baptized. I think they can offer a refreshing perspective on the whole exercise. Also, the time immediately following baptism is usually a big downer, and by keeping the doors open, we can provide valued support when the WT drops them.

Sure, help your wife get the kiddies ready.

Also insist on regular family outings and holidays.

A little bit of give and take.

King Solomon

"No cutting babies in half?"

No, I'm leaning towards letting mom have full custody, and raising them in the JWs since a flawed moral upbringing is better than none.

There's only one baby who might need to be cut in half.... :)

cyberjesus

Oh the judgemental board......

He asks a question and gets scolded...

Dude, thats a mind controlled cult. If you dont mind or cant do anything about your childrens indoctrination... Then let them get brainwashed

Do you mind?

Giordano

Why would you and your wife want to take an infant and 3 year old to a meeting that is not designed to offer anything to a young child?

I'd insist they stay home with Papa. Maybe your wife would reevaluate the importance of meetings when she's sitting there by herself. At the least she might value some peace and quite. There's nothing like a little shut eye at the KH. You can always be sure you've missed absolutly nothing!

dazed but not confused

In stead of pitting the kids against me and my wife I'd rather keep some peace. I also have been planting seeds of doubt in my son already. I will continue to do so. But I will start having other activities ready when meeting and service time comes around. He loves to go bowling. Its a a start. Take it easy on the criticisim. Im new at this and by saying Im lazy was a poor choice of words. I will however start making it harder for them to choose between meetings and fun time with me. I remember how frustratingly borring the meetings were for little ones and am counting on that for them.

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

"... and love my time away from them "

I can understand that. Having the family out of the house provides quiet time for JWN and other forms of spiritual pornography, eh?

I would suggest that one of the kids stay home with you, alternating between the two. It won't be as much work as having both of them.

NomadSoul

And when you're getting them ready for other activities give her the clothes and ask her to help them get ready.

Magwitch

Dear Dazed But Not Confused,

If I may be so arrogant as to use my own example...

My husband did not help at all when it came to our two daughters. I did everything - he admits that he never once changed a diaper, never, ever got up in the night, never helped get them ready for meetings etc. I was the girls everything. They are now 20 and 21. They have nothing to do with their father and practically worship the ground I walk on.

Be there for them as much as you can - you will want a relationship with them later. These young years are gone in the blink of an eye.

Magwitch

mrsjones5

You'll get more time away from them when they start school. Babyhood should be enjoyed cuz it doesn't last long.

Should I help my wife get the kids ready?

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