I guess i'll never find out what it is like to fade slowly since i chose the instant route.
Just wondering which one is easier, emotionally.
Slow fade vs instant fade
by tenene 18 Replies latest jw friends
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Bobcat
Wouldn't "instant fade" be a contradiction in terms? At any rate, I'm curious what you mean by "instant fade."
Take Care
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undercover
Instant fade?
Is that anything like gradually right now?
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alanv
I am sure the instant fade is better if you can deal with all your 'friends' trying to find out why you have stopped attending etc. If you can deal with that without slagging off the organisation you will get away with it. However it is very hard not to say something to someone about your true feelings.
I took the slow route as I know if I confronted the elders or others I would not be able to stop myself telling them exactly why I left and all the things I now disagree with. My son is still in and I need and want to have a normnal relationship with him.
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Glander
The term "instant fade" is kind of an oxymoron, LOL.
To truly try to fade or just check out is a question that has been discussed here a lot.
Individual circumstances and personalities have a lot to do with it.
I was an "instant fader" and it was best for me. No way I could have played JW once I saw it for what it was.
Good luck with your transition. You made the right choice
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tenene
Instant fade as in stopping all JW activity at once.
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undercover
Instant fade as in stopping all JW activity at once.
ah... that's called "quitting"
add a letter to the elders with it and it's called "disassociation"
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OUTLAW
Instant Fade?..
I think you mean..
Gone..
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paladin
I prefer slow fade so i can stay under the radar so to speak. It seems to be working well. If some day i am approached by an Elder i might be tempted to tell him to mind his own business. lol
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Giordano
Instant fade as in stopping all JW activity at once.
So What happened to make you quit?
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