by okage 35 Replies latest jw friends
" i only live in the house because my wife was brought up to think she would be an awful human being if she strayed from the house."
You picked a woman as a mate who believes she cannot leave her mother's house. Me thinks you got problems all the way round. I agree with the opinion that you (with or without your girl wife) need to leave your MIL house. I see nothing good coming out of your retribution plans.
a complete waste of time.
this has nothing to do with them or the congregation.
Yeah. You both have to get out of that house and start living. Cut your losses, man.
Especially for the wife,
"And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matthew 19:4-6
Why would you want to live in a house that turns you into an angry person? If your wife won't leave this abusive environment, you both need to see a counselor and find out, if this living arrangement is a good long term plan.
Required watching for you and your wife: "War of the Roses"
You did a good thing in helping this lady get caught up on her mortgage. She, in turn, showed you how much she valued your assistance. She is a user and manipulator. Her daughter is likely so brainwashed by her mother's guilt-trips all her life that she feels she can't escape the emotional abuse and blackmail.
Take the high road. Revenge only puts you on the same level as the person you want to get even with. Tell your MIL that you and your wife are moving into your own place ASAP, and that you cannot help her financially any longer. She will have to deal with the consequences of her choices from now on, even if that means losing her house and ending up in a shelter. Do NOT, under any circumstances, allow her to move in with you and your wife if she loses her house.
In the long run, taking the high road will keep your wife's respect, and will allow you to live your life without regrets. If you have children together someday, do you want their grandmother telling them stories about how you got revenge on her? Do you want your wife to be afraid to upset you, thinking that the payback will be hell? It's not worth it. Really.
Don't waste your time or breath. really. just live your life seperate and NEVER take on a Bible Study with JWs.
"These are not the droids you are looking for"
NJY
im sorry but cagefighter seems to be making assumption after assumption about me.
when did i indicate my employment status. im employed. i even recall stating me and my wife got the mothers mortgage caught up.
i at no point stated i was having financial difficulties. i am doing pretty well and i pay my way. we are only here because my wife was insecure about being away from her mother. apparently my name has to be cagefighter if i want to piss on my wifes feelings and disregard her insecurities as insignificant.
her mother was teetering on a defaulted mortgage. she was five months behind and broke all the time. now she is caught up with money in her account thanks to me and my wife. we arent poor. im not here because i want to be. me and my wife are planning on moving back to new york in march. ive posted that on this site before.
but cagefighter is too busy knocking his head on ceilings from jumping to conclusions about me. i didnt come on here whining about how to stay living with her. i came on here asking how to get back at her. i have my life handled pretty well. but no one gets to cost me my hard earned money.
so please cagefighter stay the hell out of my threads if you dont know how to read. twice you have insulted the strength of my marriage and multiple times you have insulted me. the next time has me running to a mod about you because your attacks are misguided and unwarranted.
ive done nothing to you and you have taken it upon yourself to insult me and belittle my character with information that came from your own twisted mind.
once again you get no more chances. read. dont assume. comment. anything more and i will petition heavily to have one of the site runners confer with you.
my wife is ready to leave. she picked the city we are moving to. she printed out the paperwork i needed to show her mother i am not playing around. my wife has been saying for months she is ready to move.
again i said i came here because she was raised to be insecure away from her mother. was.
in a thread asking for information on contacting an elder i felt no obligation to fill in every private detail of my life. i asked a question. i gave a motive. that was all i felt necessary.
apparently i needed to tell my whole story to a bunch of random strangers on the pain of being insulted for having an insecure wife. hearing that im apparently lazy and have no money. that i should or will split from my wife.
god. i would hate to see how some of you handle rape victims. some of you show concern and make no assumptions and i appreciate that. but others are insensitive and feel this an opportunity to insult me based on limited claims.
if you feel something is off then ask questions. dont make assumptions. i saw how some of you handled the tylinbrando thread and it should have cued me in to how something considerably more mild would be scrutinized.
cagefighter can go to hell for all he ran his mouth about. ms jones you are awesome but you need to ask questions before feeling comfortable enough to criticize a stranger about his relationship. new chapter thumbs up. the rest of you reading this know which category you fall under.
