"Homeschooled" Witness kids.

by refiners fire 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • target
    target

    After 8th grade I home schooled my son. He was always getting sick and the doctor said he believed it was school related stress. He had learning difficulties and the teachers kept saying that he just wasn't trying. This led to him thinking he was stupid.
    A parent has to be dedicated to make a success of home schooling. I saw some fail because the parents figured it was all up to the kid to do it on their own.
    Anyhow, my son had his diploma at age 16 1/2. He went on to school and is a computer engineer and he and his wife have a very successful internet business too. They have a couple of little boys and are all XJWs. Happy ending. That is not always the case. It is great for some but not for everyone.
    By the way, their internet business is www.babyminestore.com
    Who ever would have thought that there was gold in selling diapers.

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  • Mulan
    Mulan

    We knew a family that over the years, had NINE kids, and homeschooled them all. The mother was seriously "psycho" and seemed to always be pregnant. The payoff in this family was that the eldest daughter got pregnant at 16, disfellowshipped, of course, and married the young man, AFTER the baby was born, because they were so young. He also was 16 and also df'd. The parents were SO SHOCKED by this.

    I wondered why they were shocked. They taught the kids that happiness is having babies, didn't they? And that if they are homeschooled they are protected from the evils of the world.........oh no, you mean SEX???

    Anyway, I really loved all four of my kids, but was really happy they went to regular school. I couldn't have taken being their teacher too. I was a good mother, but I don't think I would have been a good teacher.

    Marilyn (aka Mulan)
    "No one can take advantage of you, without your permission." Ann Landers

  • KistByQpid
    KistByQpid

    Well, I believe there IS a difference between home schooled Witness kids and other home schoolers.

    I've home schooled my kids for six years. Prior to home schooling, I worked (12 years) in the public school system. I can say with some "expertise" (B.S. Human Development) that PARENTAL MOTIVATION has a LOT to do with how children develop (academically, emotionally, socially) in the home school environment. I think you need to look at why the parents made the decision to home school. Was it to academically challenge their child? Was it to provide one-on-one tutoring for a child with learning disabilites? Or, was it to primarily isolate themselves? I have been approached by several witness families, that ONLY wanted to know HOW to satisfy the LEGAL requirements...in other words...the minimum. I live in a state that has requirements that the parent must meet, in order to be approved/have their letter of intent signed. This includes ANNUAL standardized testing. I have explained to many JW families, that they were welcome to participate in a local, non denominational home school support group...well, you would have thought I was suggesting something horrible! Not once in six years, has a JW family participated. Their children would have enjoyed field trips (OMSI, children's art museum, Oregon Air National Guard, a dairy, a factory tour, End of the Oregon Trail exibit, national spelling/geography bees, sign language, etc.) sports, music and other many other activities. Belonging to a home school group, provides support for the familes and offers a wide variety of learning opportunities...not to mention the "S" word...yes...socialization.

    I always am concerned when I hear about home schoolers that are NOT doing their job, so to speak. Most home schoolers are very conscientious, completely aware that they are often under the public opinion microscope.

  • edster
    edster

    wouldn't the kids suffer burn out cos they would be around the same people talking about god 24/7.?

  • Beans
    Beans

    we had a family at our Hall that were home scooled,they were nuts! one turned out to be a prostitute!

    Beans

  • Farkel
    Farkel

    I can only see one advantage for dubs to home school their children: they will become EXPERT window washers at a very young age.

    Farkel

  • alamb
    alamb

    While in the organization, I homeschooled all my kids off and on. I just like being around them and hated delegating their educations and waking hours to people who really didn't care. But we live in Utah and the class sizes are horrendous. The schools don't even have air conditioning. I always wondered why the dog pound did and not the schools. But Utah has more kids than dogs, I suppose.

    Now I am out and the court ordered neither of us can homeschool so as not to isolate one parent. So for now they are back in. I NEVER isolated them at all. I took them out to museums and the like and always had other families involved. I would never recommend it if someone lived in a sparsely populated area either. Children need people other than family.

    If I had the chance, I would do it part time and stick them in for art, music, sports, in a heartbeat.

    I did know some wackos though.

  • GentlyFeral
    GentlyFeral

    Enough with the JW homeschool horror stories already!

    I homeschooled my 2 kids for about ten years, starting when my son was in 7th grade and my daughter in kindergarten. Junior high landed on my son with both feet. Within a few weeks it was so bad that he would not go to school under his own power: we not only had to drive him to school, but had to drag him out of bed and dress him. The issue was plain physical bullying, not jaydub fear of worldly kids. Hell, they didn't even know or care that he was a jaydub, or a gifted kid -- he was smaller than they were, and that was enough reason to stuff him into garbage cans and other amusing tricks.

    So we took him out of school, and began with a study of John Muir, which he adored until I tried to get him to write a paper about it. He was more interested in trying to do some of the stuff John Muir did.

    He did a lot more fighting about assignments, and eventually trained us to leave him alone. He did most of his learning behind my back, and today he is an artist and spiritual seeker. He lives very simply -- ten days' semi-skilled labor will pay enough to keep him alive for several weeks. So he has plenty of time for brain adventures. He lives pretty much as Eric Hoffer used to, come to think of it.

    My daughter was getting into the middle school years about the time I had my religious breakdown, so we kind of blew off middle school. She followed in her brothers' footsteps during the high school years, learning behind our backs, and has turned herself into a writer. She hasn't really gotten the work/secondary education thing down yet; we're starting to work on that now. I'm less satisfied with the way her homeschooling experience has turned out, but I know we can find or make her a place in life that she won't hate ;)

    Gently Feral

  • waiting
    waiting

    Howdy,

    My kids did ok in school. They were never bullied for being jw's - other jw's bullied them for not being spiritual enough. All graduated HS, 2 are in college presently, doing fine as long as the beer holds out.

    As for home schooling? Limited success in our area. 4 of the 6 kids I know who were homeschooled couldn't graduate as their mothers didn't give all the assigned courses. Of course, they all work in lower manual labor jobs, so really don't care if they have GED's or not.

    The other two are more fascinating. Their mother is a jw spiritual giant in her own opinion. Father an engineer (not jw). Kids homeschooled in suburbia. Kids never allowed to even TALK to neighbor kids - had to play in their own yard (2 boys) at all times, couldn't even ride their bikes in the neighborhood. Pioneered every summer & school breaks. Mother "helped" them plan on going to Bethel as soon as they could apply.

    The mother is very outspoken. I never heard either boy speak outside of jw comments in all the years I knew them. They had funky haircuts too - which I don't think has any bearing on their jw beliefs.

    Several local jw parents gently tried to sway her sterness - how could the boys interact with worldly people when they left Bethel? They've never even spoken to a worldly person! Her response: "I know they might have a little problem adjusting, but they'll be strongly rooted in God's Organization." A true, sick, statement.

    waiting

  • KistByQpid
    KistByQpid

    GentlyFeral,

    You bring up a valid point. I think those of us that have home schooled have heard plenty of "horror stories." There WILL be home schooling parents that fail to do their job. However, many public school kids graduate, academically UNPREPARED to enter college or the work place. The parents of those kids are not blamed...rather, they have the "system" as a ready scapegoat. A double standard.

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