See, this is why I don't post on topics like this because people seem to want to believe that you can never REALLY change..
Me personally, basically I no longer have use for beliefs, so not only do I not believe that (and can see no reason for believing it in my case) but also I think that is the reason why I can say unequivocally that I've completely recovered or gotten over the JW phase of my life, whether anyone else "choose" to believe it or not.
To me, if you HAVE to leave the board for a while then you're really not that far along. All the stuff that we think are a factor like how long we were a witness is simply a matter of cause and effect. Sure, every life experience has made it's mark - but not every experience you've had takes you on an emotional hijacking, it can simply be there as a memory like some TV show you watched. How seriously you took it at the time is simply a matter of the past, and as for family members - lets just say clinging to them (mentally) does not help them or yourself. The reason why this is so hard for many is that they are still tied in the same behavioral dynamic with their family members, and to truly help them it would involve getting past that.
Here's the real question: What defines you as you? Your life experiences? I'm not denying that they have an influence, but does it really have the power to DETERMINE who you are? I realize this is a stretch for many if not most, but all I suggest is that you be open to the POSSIBILITY that you can truly get beyond it. If you don't, chances are you're not going to do anything to really get over it. Why would you if you don't even think it's possible?