I said that on that original thread. I have found many jws are willing to hide their association with df'd family members, including elders. I saw one rideshare with his df'd son everyday to work. Another went to another state and stayed for several months with their df'd daughter. Another had his df'd son act as their medical support. When I mentioned it to the COBOE he got a little hot and quoted the "necessary family business" clause and told me essentially to butt out of elder business. Rank and file jws see this and monkey see, monkey do. Nothing happens to the elders so they use that as a bargaining chip. I can mention 15 other elders that regularly behind the scene associate with df'd family.
It's like the scripture in Ezekiel, JEHOVAH HAS LEFT THE LAND AND HE IS NOT SEEING.
(Ezekiel 9:9) . . .So he said to me: “The error of the house of Israel and Judah is very, very great, and the land is filled with bloodshed and the city is full of crookedness; for they have said, ‘Jehovah has left the land, and Jehovah is not seeing.’
(Ezekiel 8:7-12) . . .Accordingly he brought me to the entrance of the courtyard, and I began to see, and, look! a certain hole in the wall. 8 He now said to me: “Son of man, bore, please, through the wall.” And I gradually bored through the wall, and, look! there was a certain entrance. 9 And he further said to me: “Go in and see the bad detestable things that they are doing here.” 10 So I went in and began to see, and, look! there was every representation of creeping things and loathsome beasts, and all the dungy idols of the house of Israel, the carving being upon the wall all round about. 11 And seventy men of the elderly ones of the house of Israel, with Ja·az·a·ni′ah the son of Sha′phan standing in among them, were standing before them, each one with his censer in his hand, and the perfume of the cloud of the incense was ascending. 12 And he proceeded to say to me: “Have you seen, O son of man, what the elderly ones of the house of Israel are doing in the darkness, each one in the inner rooms of his showpiece? For they are saying, ‘Jehovah is not seeing us. Jehovah has left the land.’”