Non-JW family members who are overly RESPECTFUL and PROTECTIVE of the JW's. (page 2)

jgnat

Families are built on all sorts of dysfunction. Yours is built on the pact of silence. How about practicing the Hassan method on all the family, that is in a non-threatening way, ask questions to help them think?

nicolaou

leavingwt - outsiders are incapable of understanding Thought Reform, and the complex dynamics within high-controls groups *unless* they undertake a lenghty, exhaustive research project into the subject

Spot on, although I'd hoped that my non-JW family sat in that half-aware zone between dubs and true ousiders. Yes, they've not lived it nor absorbed it into their blood and bones but Jehovah's Witnesses have been a significant part of their/our family for 45 years.

Jgnat, I HATE the 'pact of silence'. Ours is a vocal, passionate, conversation driven Greek family - except where the precious JW faith is concerned!

Nic'

Christ Alone

I see this phenomenon on youtube all the time. People post, "Why are you picking on the Jehovah's Witnesses?!?" It's because they don't know about the hurt and pain that exJWs have gone through in and out of the organization.

00DAD

The dynamics of a blended family like this are difficult to say the least. It seems that your non-JW family clearly understands the possible consequences of your outspoken criticism of JW beliefs and policies. What they don't seem to get is that pressuring you to keep the status quo is tantamount to being enablers of the WT/JWs' abusive, bullying behavior.

Perhaps they're just being practical thinking that they probably have a better chance of getting YOU to not make an issue of things for the sake of the family because they likely know they'll never get the JWs to re-think their inflexible beliefs or put family before the organization.

Sorry you have to deal with this!

ziddina

Ugh. They are 'enabling' the Watchtower Society's dysfunctional, controlling behaviors. How sad!

zeb

Well you have had more eloquent answers than mine but ask yourself 'what do i want here?'

Why do you persist in discussing the 'truth' with said rekatives knowing as you do the inevitable outcome.?

Perhaps you have to 'agree to disagree'.

and there are some very good answers here above mine and i take my hat off to those who have answered. Take their queue and save yourself a lot of grief but whatever is done by the WTS is their choosing and their rules.

For family to bring in blame even before the 'event' smacks to me of a lot of insecurity there.

sincerely..

Phizzy

Dear Nic, I really feel for you and I know that the frustration and pain of not being able to speak as we would naturally do is a hard thing to bear.

Especially unjust is the attitude that we have caused the problem, or will cause one, and we are responsible, when in truth, the damned illogical Cult is.

I now have this stilted sort of conversation with my JW family whenever we meet, I am constantly reviewing and editing what I am about to say before it spills from my mouth, and most times not saying what I would love to say.

This is though only with those JW relatives that I am convinced it is better for them that they stay in the Cult, or in the case of one of them, it may not be better for him, but the snidey little sod deserves to suffer in it till he dies. LOL

With some of the others I am still careful and considerate, but I take the Jgnat route and put things to them that make them think.

Good luck mate, I hope you can keep your relationship with your family somehow, it is a shame all the effort , loving concern and compassion has to come from us.

What pisses me off is the JW's don't give s**t what they say to me, there is no thought that I may find their views repulsive or whatever.

jgnat

I adore the vocal Greeks and Hungarians. My own Scottish heritage is built on all the things left unsaid.

Non-JW family members who are overly RESPECTFUL and PROTECTIVE of the JW's.

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