Sorry you went through that.
I decided to drop some things off with his landlady who I knew was studying with him.
This doesn't add up either. The only non-relatives authorized to speak to disfellowshipped people are ordained male clergy.
I told him how the past two years of lies have impacted me.
This was a good strategy. He needs to understand he is not acting in accordance with his own professed beliefs, and it could be therapeutic with you.
He takes no responsibility for his lying or the pain this relationship has caused me. It’s like he has no conscience or basic morality.
This is quite common for jws. They are specifically taught that worldlies like you are worthless and evil.* When I was a teen "in", they called "worldly" boys "The Walking Dead".
I too would advise you to cut off the relationship for good. Letting him "keep in touch" probably assuages his conscience on some level, and he doesn't deserve that, especially at your expense.
*Here is what he believes about you. :(
Watchtower 2010 Sep 15 p.14
"The spirit of companionship that unites those who work together in God's service is far stronger than the spirit that unites others in the world who merely socialize together."
Awake 1996 October 22 p.15
Since worldly people are existing as slaves of corruption, their company cannot bring you true happiness.
Watchtower 1994 Feb 15 p.24
"We must also be on guard against extended association with worldly people. Perhaps it is a neighbor, a school friend, a workmate, or a business associate. We may reason, 'He respects the Witnesses, he leads a clean life, and we do talk about the truth occasionally.' Yet, the experience of others proves that in time we may even find ourselves preferring such worldly company to that of a spiritual brother or sister. What are some of the dangers of such a friendship?"
Watchtower 1995 Mar 15 p.11
"Learning to Find Enjoyment in the Fear of Jehovah *** The majority of people have no interest in God and his purposes."
Watchtower 1986 7/1 p.26
"True, the majority of people disdain pure worship."
Watchtower 1987 September 15 p.12 Breathing This World's "Air" Is Death-Dealing!
"While some contact with worldly people is unavoidable-at work, at school, and otherwise-we must be vigilant so as to keep from being sucked back into the death-dealing atmosphere of this world. ... Let the world go along in its way, reaping its bad fruitage in the form of broken homes, illegitimate births, sexually transmitted diseases, such as AIDS, and countless other emotional and physical woes."
Watchtower 1984 October 1 pp.15, 19 Remain "Without Spot From the World"
"We must avoid the speech, conduct and attitudes that are so common among worldly individuals, but that are out of harmony with God's Word. For instance, hatred, greediness, shameful conduct and obscene jesting have no proper place in our life. We must 'put up with one another and be forgiving, even as Jehovah has freely forgiven us.' (Colossians 3:13) That is not the common worldly way of dealing with others, but it is the godly way."
True Peace and Security - How Can You Find It? pp.122,126 Survivors Must Be "No Part of the World"
"Only a minority has ever stayed free from the control of this invisible ruler and his forces. Thus the "world," that is, the mass of mankind alienated from God, "is lying in the power of the wicked one . This may sound hard to believe. Yet, do not most people of this world clearly manifest the attitude and works of God's Adversary? ... Worldly people, for example, heap honor and glory on those whose ambitious drive leads them to great wealth, power, or fame""
Watchtower 1970 March 1 p.148
"He will want to watch how he walks so he does not unintentionally begin acting like worldly youths."
Watchtower 1966 June 1 p.341
"If you are one of those rare persons that wants to serve the Creator today, that wants to give him exclusive devotion, that wants to do work that is pleasing in his eyes, that wants to receive his approval and his gift of life, then let Jehovah, by means of his spirit, cultivate in you the good condition of heart that is a mark of his people."
Watchtower 1954 December 15 p.759
"By giving the Kingdom message instead of giving mere money or material things they reach those who are really "poor in spirit," "conscious of their spiritual need," rather than just the self-seeking poor of this world who do not care to belong to Jehovah. Thus the unappreciative worldly poor who prefer to belong to Satan the "god of this system of things" are screened out."
"If we stop actively supporting Jehovah's work, then we start following Satan. There is no middle ground." Watchtower 2011 Jul 15 p.18
"But Jehovah's servants already belong to the only organization that will survive the end of this wicked system of things." Watchtower 2007 Dec 15 p.14
"But if we were to draw away from Jehovah's organization, there would be no place else to go for salvation and true joy." Watchtower 1993 Sep 15 p.22
"Only Christian witnesses of Jehovah who successfully pass this test will survive and come forth like fire-refined gold for God's use in his precious new order." Watchtower 1985 Mar 1 p.14
"The Devil is not on Jesus' side, and so the goatlike people who do nothing helpful to the reigning King Jesus Christ are against him and are on the Devil's side. There is no neutral side in the time of Christ's presence or parousia .They are cursed, just as Satan the Devil and his demon angels are. Hence, they deserve an everlasting future like that of the Devil and his angels." God's Kingdom of a Thousand Years has Approached p.286
See here--even cats and children are evil.
I know this is pretty shocking but you need to know how he views you...
Best wishes in your journey ahead (which will not be down a crevice!).
See here--even cats and children are evil.