Have You Changed Since Getting On To This Site?

by minimus 64 Replies latest jw friends

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  wha happened?

  I lost about 20 lbs and I consider myself bald now.
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  MrsCedars

  Yes, not all for better
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  minimus

  Aw, mrs. Cedars.....:(
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  freeflyingfaerie

  My way of looking at some things has changed~

  This site has for sure affected my mental morphology
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  minimus

  I try to work on being patient. With so many people here on a different level, it's easy to forget where we were not that long ago.
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  never a jw

  My perception of some JW's has changed. I have acquired a great deal of respect for ex JW's. I thought JW's were not as sharp or educated, but I was wrong, very wrong.
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  Think About It

  When I first came to this site I....

  a) Thought the JW religion was still the truth

  b) Had just left a horrible job situation, which caused me to put on weight

  c) Had not had sex in a few years

  Now....

  a) I know TTATT, that the JW religion is a cult

  b) I've got a new job making twice the money of my old job

  c) I've lost the weight, and now sleep with a beautiful hot asian woman

  Life is good.
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  LisaRose

  When I first left the JWs, I wasn't sure if it was "The Truth" or not, but I knew I couldn't do it any more. By the time I found this site, I had realized that this religion was not "The Truth" but it did help me to understand how and why I had been deceived, so it was a big help. But at that point I wasn't sure I believed in God, and I still had an aversion to organized religion. I think that is a common response to leaving this religion because as a Witness, you are so conditioned to hate and fear other religions. Even when you realize tatt, that hate and fear of other religions does not automatically go away. As Flying High Now said, the thinking patterns of this religion are still there. This site was a big help in helping me to ununderstand and overcome that thinking. The JW mindset is very black and white, everything has to be completely wrong or completely right. I began to see it doesn't have to be that way.

  I think it is also common to lose your faith in God when you leave this religion. When you break free of the JW mindset, it is only logical to challenge all your previously held beliefs I realized that there is no proof that he exists. If he does, it's pretty obvious he does not involve himself in the affairs of man. I never really considered myself an Athiest, as that would suggest a conviction I never felt, but I couldn't say I was a believer either. I realized I didn't have to be one or the other. At that point I took a break from this site and focused on other things in my life.

  So here I am 12 years out of the religion. I began to visit this site again. It helped me to realize that I do still believe in God, but that belief is completely different that When I was a dub. I know I could never argue for my belief in God, it's more of a personal thing, just something I feel. I no longer have that kind of black or white thinking, for me that was what led me to be fooled by the JWs, and that is what keeps so many of them stuck, unable to leave. There is science, which is based on evidence, and belief in God which is a matter of faith. I am even coming around to the idea of joining a church.
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  sd-7

  I have evolved into a door mat, and learned, laughed, not quite cried, and became infuriated...it's been a great ride.

  --sd-7
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  minimus

  thank you for your expressions!