by Most Noble 67 Replies latest jw friends
Mrs. Jones, are you wondering if our OP is "Begging the Question"?
It all depends on the bird, doesn't it Satanus? Where there is significant investment by the mate in raising the young ones, we see pairing and loyalty. The Red-Winged blackbird is an exception to this rule. They both play around; he boldly, she quietly, but he sticks around to protect the nest.
People invest a lot in the raising of their children.
They say they love their kids, family, $$$, house, connections, friends.....personally I think it's a sham.
There is something very comforting in having a companion you can trust.
There is something very comforting in having a companion you can trust.
Yes. It softens and warms the heart.
Well, whomever shouldn't have screwed up in the first place.
But if you have, an older gentleman passed along some advice to me once on a completely unrelated subject that seems apt here. Whenever you are about to stir the hornet's nest and kick over the ant hill, ask yourself, "What exactly, am I trying to achieve?"
If you honestly ask yourself that question in regards to infidelity, most of the time it has little to do with honesty or your relationship. It's because you feel guilty, or you feel the need for absolution or forgiveness. You feel like a horrible person. Confessing is less about consideration for the other party, and more about selfishness in the need to assuage your conscience and make you feel better.
And selfishness is what got you into this predicament in the first place.
Is it ethical to confess extramarital sex to your spouse?
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sooo baaaaaaad
f you honestly ask yourself that question in regards to infidelity, most of the time it has little to do with honesty or your relationship. It's because you feel guilty, or you feel the need for absolution or forgiveness. You feel like a horrible person. Confessing is less about consideration for the other party, and more about selfishness in the need to assuage your conscience and make you feel better
Doesn't the fact that you would feel better in confessing tell you it is the right thing to do ?
Why confess to God if He is already aware ?... it's like when you have a child confess for an offence that was in full view for all to see
verbal acknowledgement helps you see the gravity of what you have done. and hopely in the case of adultery true remorse.
Our sins are forgiven at salvation (positional forgiveness), but our daily fellowship with God needs to stay in good standing (relational forgiveness).
Hosea 5:15, “I will go and return to my place, till they acknowledge their offence, and seek my face: in their affliction they will seek me early.”
To in return hear the voice of forgiveness indeed may release your affliction
To share a bed is to share no secerts.... if indeed you desire deep lasting trust and peace !
This sounds like a bunch of ex witnesses who can't shake off those witness years when confession was mandatory and so was praying............oh that's right I forgot.
Never confess anything just don't do it again it's that simple.
By the way never bother god about this kind of stuff. Right now god has his hands full trying to figure out why those black holes he created are growing out of control and gobbling up all sorts of things. Even Satan is worried.
Why does AA ask that you stand up before the group and say yes" I am an alcoholic .."
doesn't everyone there already know why you are there ......
is it just to embarrass you ?
verbal acknowledgement hits home
