Hey Chezza..it dont matter wether you get it or not..Your not allowed to have an opinion on this...your not allowed to question anything...your not even allowed to Think you just might be allowed to question anything.. ....just sit down..shut the f#@#! up and do as your told!!!!!!!!
lol....
REINSTATED AND STILL SHUNNED!
by new boy 25 Replies latest jw friends
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Rags
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chezza
I guess thats why i left then.
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hybridous
My old man is still informally shunned by a certain group of JWs.
What happened was, he left us when I was a kid. He left mom, brother, sister, and I, and the witnesses....he DA's himself. He did whatever he did...his pathetic excuse for a conscience bothered him at some point, so he returned to the cult. He married another woman, a JW (his 3rd. marriage), and now he's in 'good standing' (reinstated)with another congregation across town, but...
There's still this certain group of witnesses, mostly from 'our' original congregation who still view my dad as the dirtbag he is, and will not associate with him DESPITE the official-seal-of-approval from the WTS. It amuses me, because he's a worse asshole now than before he left...perhaps he believes that if the WTS says he's ok...then he really must be ok. Whatever....he'll never convince that group from our congregation.
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pamkw
Many years ago I was disfellowshipped when I was 19, two years later I was 21 and pregnant. I needed my family to help me. So I worked at getting reinstated. I was 6 months pregnant when I was got back in. How did the congregation react? Some people were so angry that they couldn't look at me for years. Others went to my sister and said I should not have been reinstated because I wasn't pregnant enough. I have never figured out what that meant. I guess they thought I should have my baby first. I tried hard for years to be the perfect jw single mom, I was never good enough. When another woman named Pam started coming to the hall, no one could remember my name, they were always calling me by her name. I who grew up in that cong, was not important. After I got in trouble a 2nd time, (put on reproof) then I became totally invisible. Now I have been gone about 6 years and no one remembers me.
Pam
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Dawn
Wow Pam - we have a lot in common. I also was a single mom - only I was DF'd right after my baby was born, then re-instated, then DF'd again a few years later. Most of them didn't really care and weren't willing to help me when I needed it - I was forgotten before I was DF'd.
Only difference - I'm remembered now - but only because I'm a pain in their side. I take care of my elderly mom who is an active JW so they have to deal with me all the time.
They just think we're invisible because "where else is there to go but God's organization?" (yea right)
Well - God remembers you and loves you - and he doesn't need anyone's stamp of approval! Now that's cool.
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new boy
Bone yard day!
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Open mind
Hey there (not-so) new boy!
Nice to see you around.
I pretty much agree with Marilyn's assessment. DFing as a formalized process should be scrapped. It the Baptists were to forbid smoking and you decide to smoke, you're not going to be in their inner circle. But you're probably not going to lose your family or life-long friends. (Unless they REALLY hate cigarette smoke like my wife.)
People judge and even shun to varying extents. Just let the chips fall where they may and keep the 3 men in suits out of it.
OM
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FlyingHighNow
Hey, New Boy, why are you resurrecting this thread?WB
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new boy
This is my 1,000ths post!!!.....not bad after 6 years.
Just wanted it to happen posting to one of my threads!
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FlyingHighNow
Well, that's cool as heck, New Boy. As you can see, I run my mouth a lot more than you do.