I didnt read everyones cmments but the person he is marrying NEEDS to know!!!!!!!!! do it anonymously if u have to but everyone in that cong NEEDS to know what he did! My spouse was molested when they were 10 to 11 yrs...i hold everyone who knew what happened to them accountable. If you can potentialy stop this man from doing it again, u have to tell! Or god forbid, if anything happens to those little ones you will feel regret.
Sickening Dilemma
by ItsMyLife 72 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse
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EmptyInside
This makes me sick. This woman's children have already been put in danger. It should have been the elders that told her as soon as they knew she was dating this man.
But,you need to make sure she knows and that her children and other children are protected. He probably picked her because she has children.
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Big Mama
Go to the police and request an anonymous meeting with a child protection agency officer as well as a police detective.....provide them with all the names and written notes you have. Any and all documentation will help get them moving. Go in person after having made an appointment with a detective/CPA worker. DO NOT DELAY.
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Band on the Run
I would notify the police. Anonymously, if possible.
My super was a pedophile. He was a member of the NY police dept. and brought pornographic photos of her to brag to his colleagues. When the officers saw the photos, he was soon out on the street, llosing his job and pension. There was some technicality and he could not be prosecuted. I did not know abou this for years. My mom found out after he remarried and has a daughter. They needed a babysitter. My mom would pay parents to allow her to babysit. She adored it.
When she was 1 1/2-2, the city required that she be part of a program to allow her to stay with him. Her mom was a drug addicted prostitute. It amazed me. Before she could really speak, she was certain of whether she wanted any touch. There was no hestiation. They constantly monitored the situation. He felt bad about the first daughter and committed to doing all that was asked. Perhaps he had to do so or go to prison.
The strange thing is that when the oldest daughter was 18, she acted out in grand manner. She was a street prostitute and a heroin addict. Her creepy older boyfriend became angry when they broke up and looked for her father. He murdered my super in front of the building. There was so much blood that it stained the sidewalk.
If any other trait were in question, I would think it was a private matter. The authorites should know. I don't think informing the mother is enough. The world is full of women who placed their interests before the protection of the children.
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flipper
I agree with Sir 82, report this molester to police, but then also report it to child protection services, and tell his girlfriend. I would cover all bases , the elders certainly will not do it- they are more concerned about it getting exposed in public. Protect the children of this girlfriend THAT is the priority here and now
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Mum
I agree that you should go to the police, with evidence in hand if possible. His fiancee should also know, but there's a good chance she won't believe it, as women are very protective of their men, especially before they know them well.
The neighborhood where he lives and where he will live after marriage should also know. You could mail copies of his photo and a warning to those who live or will live close by so they can be on the lookout for any signs the children might have been abused. The children's teachers and school officials should also be notified.
I would also notify Child Protective Services and try to get a social worker assigned to monitor the situation.
This is a serious matter. Those children will be scarred for life if that psychiatrist is wrong, and he probably is.
Regards,
SandraC
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steve2
They would would take a multiple agency approach to investigate the risk.
Only if these agencies have a statutory obligation to do so. For example, if the pedophile was currently under a court-imposed supervisory order that he not have unsupervised contact with minor children.
Again, in the absence of this man being currently under a court-imposed supervisory order, the woman needs to be told. With that information, she then has decisions to make. At the very least, her awareness will be raised and she cannot claim she was not warned.
This sounds harsh but, in the absence of a current supervisory order, directly informing the mother is one of the strongest ways to protect children.
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LisaRose
I had a friend whose child was molested by a brother. He confessed and was reproved. He later got engaged to a sister with young children. My fried tried to warn the mother, she didn't care, and my friend got a reprimanded by the elders.
I think you must warn the sister, You cannot count on the elders doing the right thing. You should do it anonymous my if there is any chance it could be traced back to you. I doubt the police can do anything unless you have the name of the victim, dates, etc.
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nibbled
If you have reason to believe that a child is or has been abused, there are mandatory reporting laws which require reporting it in most states.
https://www.childwelfare.gov/responding/reporting.cfm
Even if it is not mandatory it is obvious that your heart is guiding you to take action.
Remember, even if that sister's children would somehow be safe, it there are so many other children within his reach. Read about all these children who might have found protection if someone like you'd known and stepped up: www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21917798/ns/nbcnightlynews/t/new-evidence-jehovahs-witness-allegations/#.UISz4Wl27ek — they are all "brothers" from ONE area, including one of America's Most Wanted.
I commend you for having the heart and courage to protect the children, both those you know and those you do not. The elders speaking to that one sister (or believing that he will???) are not looking out for all of God's children, nor apparently concerned with reporting laws. "Privilege" from it being a private "spiritual" matter doesn't apply in many states—but you, regardless, are not bound by any such privelege.
Our Father will remember your deed.
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perfect1
In what you think of as the Worldly world- known sex offenders must register with the police so that they community knows who they are. There are searchable databases of pedophiles and sex offenders so you know if you are neighbors with one.
This is because of Megans law.
If so called worldly people can protect children with information- why cant JWs do the same.
Now that you have the information, there is no dilemma at all. Report it and tell the engaged woman.
That is the right thing to do.
EDIT: I completely disagree with DATA DOG. Absolutely do not confront the abuser. You put yourself at risk. She does not need to know every detail WHAT ARE YOU THINKING DD!!!!!!