Shunning my Family (page 2)

Beans

I also have found family in friends! As I have no family in Canada friends are very important to me and I treat them as if they are my family!

Beans

To D Wiltshire: Thank you for the suggestion. Have already tried that. He got really, really angry. In fact, that was part of the problem when we initially tried to improve communication. Flat out told us that he is justified in being controlling because he is just following theocratic order. Not a drop of compassion because he following company rules. I'm not one for conflict so I either take the abuse of avoid contact. Quite frustrating really....

D wiltshire

mrs rocky2,

I'm glad you have already tried it. I hope some day your dad comes to his senses.

Join the Watchtower or you will die.
Only Jehovah's Witnesses have the TRUTH all other religions EVIL and from the Devil.
You must beleive the Watchtower or you're going to die a painful death forever, isn't that really GOOD NEWS?

Tinkerbell4125

Beans, I also think that, our family is disfuntional in others too. If you take any family, it has it's problems. You put all the j.w. crap and that just compounds it. The more family members, the more bullshit. Our parents are dead now, but we're all left to defend ourselves. Some of my j.w. siblins don't live the j.w. life, but they still believe it and it's almost like a disloyalty to my decessed mother if they talk negative about the *truth*. They all live in such a small world.

I love them, but I love them from afar. Tink =:o)

Billygoat

(((Mrs Rocky2)))

I totally understand your story. I think we're sisters with the same parents. What's really sad is my father puts me on the phone with my step-mom. We've got even less in common other than we have similar body parts.

Tinker,

I love this...

I love them, but I love them from afar.

Excellent advice for anyone! It's a bit easier on me since I live in Texas and my parents live in Hawaii. EVERYTHING we do is from afar! A blessing in disquise I guess.

Beans,

I also have found family in friends! As I have no family in Canada friends are very important to me and I treat them as if they are my family!

Funny thing...Neil and I were just talking about this this weekend. He understands that no matter how much he loves me, he will never replace that familial love. He understands no matter how much HIS parents love me, they will never replace that familial love. No matter how many loving people I have around, I still want my mommy and daddy and my baby brothers. But I believe God provides me "family" that is healthier and more loving than my real family could ever provide. You and I share the same value system here. In my life, blood is NOT thicker than water! I've got dozens of moms and dads and brothers and sisters. All because they understand I don't have family and are willing to do whatever necessary to fill that void.

Andi

Bang

I don't have JW family, but I feel compelled to shun the JW neighbours. They smile and pretend to be nice to my wife and family, but because she is Catholic it's a front. They use whatever barely legal opportunities they can to really upset her, and then smile and pretend as if nothing happened. Their family hates it if anything pleasant happens to us, so we try not to display any household gods we may have gotten. I've never had to deal with such nasty people before. That's why I'm here. At the moment I avoid, ignore and I suppose shun them. I suppose the problem is I don't love them enough to risk the well being of my family anymore.

Thank God it's not the truth, can you imagine it? And still on the bright side, their fruit has taught us what we need to know about the religion. My family is safe, my relatives and their children are safe, and the people across the street are safe, and not only safe, but even without reading any bibles, they have no fear of JWs or anything they may have to say.

There's a purpose to everything I suppose, but it's still distressing to see them.

Bang

Tinkerbell4125

Well I guess my final point in this matter is, I'm 40 years old and this is my one and only life. I may go to heaven, I may go to hell, at this point, I'll admit that I'm totally fuc*ed up when it comes to religion. BUT....I DO KNOW that I have *this* life and I'm gonna live it! AND I'm gonna live it the way I want to. I mean, my family would be fuc*ed up if they were j.w.'s or not, so I handle it with that frame of mind. I love my family, and I'm I guess I'm just doing the best I can with it. It was warm and sunny today. I got out and mowed the yard. It was my first time doing that this year. While mowing, I was thinking about how much happier I am living here. It was a good move on our part. =:o)
Lov'in them from afar!!! Tink =;o)

Beans

Cheers to you Tinkerbell! I feel the same way!

Beans

mrs rocky2

To D wiltshire: Thank you for the kinds words. There don't seem to be enough of them these days.

To Billygoat: I recall that you are part Asian (Japanese?)? like me? and is your dad the non-Asian, or your mom. My dad is a 'Japanese wannabe,' but not any Japanese at all. He likes a lot of the traditional Japanese values and customs, especially the traditional patriarchal family thing - fits with his controlling personality real well. Have a lot of respect for my mom tho'. She raised us kids without much help from dad (he was always at work or tending to elder things). She didn't speak or read English, didn't drive, and didn't have any blood family close by (she's the only one who came to the states). And she loves her grandkids ferociously. She knows I'm not going to meetings any more but hasn't told dad. And yes, my dad sounds just like yours - he always says he'll get mom on the phone right away! I love it! Of course, it's easy to avoid dealing with him when he lives a five hour drive away. We should talk sometime! I'm sure we'd have a lot in common...It's so nice knowing I'm not alone out here with the parent/JW stuff.

Mrs R

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