GONEAWOL- Welcome to the board my friend. I'm so proud of you and your wife how you both stood up to the unjust elders especially on behalf of your daughter who needed a life saving blood transfusion. Good for you and her ! Don't blame yourself for being sucked in by the mind control manipulation of these leeches within the congregations you were in. We ALL as JW's were under some kind of mind control and if you get a chance I highly recommend reading Steve Hassan's books on mind control " Combatting Cult Mind Control " & " Releasing the Bonds- Emowering People to Think for Themselves " & " Freedom of mind - Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs ". All 3 of those books REALLY explain HOW cults like Jehovah's Witnesses, Scientology, and Mormons use mind control tactics and how it changed our personalities for quite a few years and how we can reintegrate our authentic, human born non-cult personality back within us and recapture our true authentic self that was stolen from us by the WT Society. These books helped me immensely even AFTER i had stopped attending 4 years previous to reading them.
I'm so happy for you folks and please know we are here for you as friends and a support system, O.K. ? Take care of that little family of yours. Stand up and be proud of what you've both accomplished ! You've made some major positive life changes and have your freedom of mind and thinking ability again. And that's a good thing