My mother asked me that once. I said I no longer believed anything in the Bible. She asked why and I said there was no point in discussing it. "Let's talk about other things." That worked with my mother because she was rather passive. She let it go, didn't shun, didn't ask questions.
How to tell family why you are no longer attending meetings?
by El_Guapo 33 Replies latest jw friends
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Pistoff
The absolute best answer to any witness, uber dub or not, is:
i am tired and discouraged.
That has worked like a charm for me; no one questions it, they all understand it.
Even my super elder BIL said well, I understand that.
That was after giving me the litmus test question:
DO you believe this is god's organization?
I lied, and said OF COURSE.
He then asked me why I don't attend meetings, and I said I was tired and discouraged.
It was like a Jedi mind trick; he said well yes I certainly understand that.
And that was the end of it.
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2+2=5
Expectation postponed is making the heart sick. You expected this system to end many years ago. It keeps going on and on and on and now your heart is sick, and the religions teachings are really to blame because they have been building expectation and it is always postponed. You just need a break from the constant reminders of soon this system will end.
I wouldn't mind saying something like this to family or elders because for one it is a bible principle, and second it highlights the religon's error in building false hope and expectation. But like has been said, it is hard to beat those expressions like discouraged, stumbled, waiting on Jehovah.
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Giordano
Tell her your trying somthing different....... your visiting the offical JW web site instead of going to the hall. It's lively, you can pick the material your really interested in. It's fun and you can drink a beer while your reading.
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jwfacts
I got an email yesterday from my mom asking why we stopped going to meetings.
"Thank you for your concern Mum, but you know that it is not possible for a Witness to openly discuss such things."
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2+2=5
"Thank you for your concern Mum, but you know that it is not possible for a Witness to openly discuss such things."
I have used a similar line with a couple of good friends in the congregation. They knew I had spoken to elders about doubts, and when they ask me what is going on, I just say that I am not in a position to talk about it and have been told to keep it to myself.
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jam
Tell her, it,s between me and Jehovah, he will work it out.
I don,t feel the love in the KH, in fact it,s a bad reflection on
Jehovah.
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Fed-up
It's only been a month? let the dust settle a little.
When you choose to talk to her, don't lie. Be as honest as you can be with out lying. It's a fine line, of course.
My bet, she already knows the answer. She has known you for a very long time.
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Fed-up
oh, and now matter what, try to be as understanding as Jefe...
Jefe : I have put many beautiful pinatas in the storeroom, each of them filled with little suprises.
El Guapo : Many pinatas?
Jefe : Oh yes, many!
El Guapo : Would you say I have a plethora of pinatas?
Jefe : A what?
El Guapo : A *plethora*.
Jefe : Oh yes, you have a plethora.
El Guapo : Jefe, what is a plethora?
Jefe : Why, El Guapo?
El Guapo : Well, you told me I have a plethora. And I just would like to know if you know what a plethora is. I would not like to think that a person would tell someone he has a plethora, and then find out that that person has *no idea* what it means to have a plethora.
Jefe : Forgive me, El Guapo. I know that I, Jefe, do not have your superior intellect and education. But could it be that once again, you are angry at something else, and are looking to take it out on me? -
Gojira_101
Wait you said "we aren't attending" has your wife come out? Did I miss that topic? I've been following your other posts, so did I miss something?
I love how the JW rumor mill functions...."I heard from this friend of a friends, of a friend, of a friend...etc, said you aren't attending anymore. They listen to that instead of asking you.
Just yesterday a friend of mine who is going the fading way was telling me his brother came up to him and asked "Elder so-and-so said you write a DA letter and are no longer a JW, it that true?" My friend was dumbfounded because he hasn't written a letter and he isn't even talking to anyone. So who is spreading this? One of the many things I hated about the JW's, the rumor mill and gossip!
All I can say is tread carefully with your family, and be careful what you say to them. My family found out I haven't turned any time in for 3 months, and I'm not even technically inactive yet and they have all called me an apostate and won't talk to me anymore....and that was just because I said I haven't gone in service or meetings in 3 months.....Please brother just be careful how you handle it and try to control the emotions....especially if you don't want to lose your family. Use your health as an excuse if you have to.
G