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by maxwell 20 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Solace

  Hello!
  I also admire you confessing so your wife can have "scriptural freedom", if the W.T.S still enforces that. My father just kind of faded away. With no proof of adultry on his part, if my mother was to remarry, she would have been disfellowshipped.
  She spent many years searching, hiring a private detective etc.
  We found out that he had met another woman and they had a child together. He was with her the entire time.
  I believe the W.T.S caused more misery to my mother by their bogus "scriptural freedom doctrine" than my father did by leaving her. Of course she will probably never see it that way.

  I hope things go as smoothly as possible for you and your wife, whatever you decide. You seem to still care for her. Have you really talked with her about this? You never know, maybe she is having doubts of her own.
  Your Bio. is excellent.
  I wish more people would enter a biography. Its nice to learn a little about someone upfront.
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  teenyuck

  Welcome Maxwell, it is always interesting to hear what others are going through. Please keep us posted.

  Tina
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  Beck_Melbourne

  Hey there Maxwell

  I read your profile...whoa...what an interesting character. Hey didn't you read that WT article about the snares of the internet...me either lol.

  I wrote a letter to DA myself 4 yrs ago...because I had walked out on a marriage of 14 yrs for a man I'd met over the internet...naughty I know. When I look back...I was really looking for an excuse to exit the borg...I felt like I'd had enough...and my husband at that time was an elder...and he was riddled with that borg mentality. I wanted out...and well...here I am...happier then a pig in sh*t...the best thing I ever did was leave the borg. Leaving the marriage was hard...but I think we are both over it now....and I know I am much happier for it.

  Welcome to the board...and keep posting...looking forward to reading more of your comments.

  Beck
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  chezza

  Hi Maxwell,
  I too left the org and my marriage the same way, i went out with a bang shall we say, i confessed my indiscretion to my husband first and then to the elders, leaving was the best thing i did for me anyway, and now i have the most wonderful man in my life i feel so many years were wasted, brave desicion you have made and i wish you all the happiness you can find.
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  mouthy

  Welcome Maxwell- Sounds like your on a good track. I too dont think you should confess anymore than you have. Just give the elders something to share with their wives, & the wives to share with their "friends' .Just talk it over with the one that matters, Wife & God.
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  Kep

  Maxwell,
  Welcome to the board mate.
  As you have noticed, there are a lot of really good people here.
  Been thru so much themselves and yet so giving to help others.
  Enjoy your time here.
  Kep
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  KissAFish

  Welcome Max.. interesting story.. Hope everything works out for the best..
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  butalbee

  Hello! Welcome to the board,
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  Billygoat

  Maxwell,

  Welcome to the board! I must agree with some of the others...I think your decision to come forward says a lot about you. Humility is a great quality no matter what beliefs you may/may not hold.

  I hope all goes well with your story. Keep coming here for comfort/education/friendships. Trust me...so many of us here understand the pain JW life can bring.

  Andi
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  SPAZnik

  Hi Maxwell!

  Welcome. I'm a newbie too.

  Jes' wanted to say...that it sounds like it matters to you to be open & HONEST here...with yourself and with others affected by your decisions (your wife).

  I think that's great.

  Whatever you decide to do...I hope it is in line with being TRUE to yourself and what you really want and can live with. It's always easier to live with the consequences, whatever discomfort they may bring, when you have been honest with yourself (as you seem to be trying to do).

  This is all pretty fresh to me too, and the biggest thing I've learned so far (if i may take the liberty of sharing my learnings) is that the only regrets I ever have end up being about certain decisions made out of "fear" rather than out of being true to myself.

  Make any sense? Well, do with it whatever you see fit! And thanks again for sharing your experiences.

  Hang in there!

  SPAZ