The following are two emails (one mine, one from an elder) that are part of an exchange regarding the unfairness of shunning. He is an elder and a substitute of the C.O. He comes from a "highly decorated" family of JW's. They have it all, elders, C.O., bethelite lawyers, even one black sheep who was disfellowshipped many years ago and never came back.
My e-mail with questions below Dear Mr Elder, Sorry for the extra e-mail but I just couldn't let it go. "the problem with them is selfishness", you wrote. [this line is quoted from a previous e-mail] Apostates are "unhappy", or "not pleasant people" according to some other JW's that I personally know. The WT also hurls other hateful labels and descriptions such as. "mentally diseased", "like a dog that returns to its vomit" and many more. Question for you to ponder: Why is it that the Watchtower and JW's never defend successfully from the valid criticism of the apostates in a myriad of subjects?Most responses I hear or read from them are ad hominem attacks. Occasionally I read a defense of 607 B.C. or Creation, or the U.N. scandal, but it always falls short. Challenge for you: After April 15 I can breathe again. Would you then be able to set aside the argumentum ad hominem and direct me to, or offer me a valid argument on any of the dozens of issues that have been raised by the apostates? Have a good weekend. Never a JW HIS RESPONSE below (tell me if he is addressing my questions) Dear Never a JW,Well, no.
I do not think apostates are all those things you mentioned. They're just like we all are, good in some things and bad in others.
But, for the most part, their actions tell me they are not following Jesus example or teachings. For example, many of them have indeed re-adopted false doctrines. Others have stopped caring about the public in general and no longer witness about God's truths as they used to before. And as for the Christian command of meeting together, they don't.
There are many reasons for which a person might stop being a Witness, and that is as it should be. Millions of people have stopped attending religious services in many different denominations, because they have had a change of heart. But the fact that it happens does not prove their former faith to be wrong.
Likewise, a person who stops being a Witness has not "finally seen the light", they have simply had a change of heart, and that is as it should be. They have let themselves be convinced of another truth.
We each need to decide what "truth" we will believe. Let us hope (and pray) we have found the real truth. Mr Elder I asked only 2 direct and specific questions. Did the elder ever answer those questions?? There's more quite interesting stuff in subsequent e-mails