Yes I am, yes I am.
However, I hope my bitterness does not define my existence.
Are we all bitter?
by LouBelle 49 Replies latest jw friends
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LouBelle
Am I bitter? no, I'm not. I have regrets, my life could have taken a different route, but I am at peace about it. I am glad I took and made the effort to find out the facts about the faith and not still think it's a great religion. My past anger was directed at the faith because I came out of it and it had lied and decevied me.
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prologos
Not all here are bitter, because I, for one, am not. I am not sure my life, or anybody else's would have been better, (rather than different) without the WT BtS involvement, given the pro and cons , uncertainty of life any- and everywhere.
The Past is gone forever, bitterness is too much of a down - drag to carry for long.
We are all playing with a new set of cards that were dealt now, so:
make the best of it, because it is.
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Band on the Run
I have justified rage
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doofdaddy
His attitude reminds me of an old friend (who has since died from his habits) who, when I would voice disgust over certain jw teachings would jump up and defend the witnesses. I had to finally say well why not go back if you love it so much? Of course he couldn't as he was the biggest "sinner" I knew! His wrestling with his dark side had him defending what he deep down thought was right..Humans are funny critters.
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gma-tired2
Yes i believe we are all or at least most are bitter. With myself it has different levels of bitterness and anger. The last few weeks it has become worse due to the WT sttand on shunning. It is bringing out the agressive part of my passive-aggresive personality. I have already use Matt. 18 on one family member over shunning and I upset her so much she has lost what little was left of her humanity (ran to confess to her elders) Another family member is looking for reasons she must call but I hear her thinking she is suppose to shun my family it is said because this is something my family has always refused to di in our family. If she does choose to shun me Inprobally will let go on her too. YES I AM BITTER.
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Glander
I wouldn't describe myself as bitter. The JW life I lived from birth to about age 40, including the after effects of being DF'd, has definitely left a bad taste in my memories.
I think some folks should "walk a mile" in others shoes before they pigeon hole everyone as "bitter". I think "justifiable righteous indignation" is a better way to put it.
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Pickler
Yes, a little bit bitter.
It comes & goes.
Sometimes I will be in a situation that brings up something from the past & it will hit me hard.
that's why this forum is great, no one else understands this (except if they were in another cult)
i spent 20 years never talking about these things, so I think it's good to get it out.
if someone is not bitter, well, many people had quite benign experiences of the JW. I've met a few who drifted in & out easy, people whose parents still let them have friends at school, play sport etc etc Many had extended family that they were close to....this obviously acted to dilute the affects of the org.
Maybe these guys don't need a forum.
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Satanus
I am out of the bitter stage. Maybe, thats why i'm apathetic. About my family in, i say f$%^k em. Its their choice.
However, others w dub believers living under the same roof as them, and getting bad treatment, i can totally accept that they be bitter.
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prologos
Pickler: good comments all; you said: " not bitter, --do not need the forum--? well: we are glad the forum provides solace, outlet for the bitter. but:
the forum is also great to discuss and clarify ideas, provide interesting insights or unheard topics and angles for lurkers and all.
and of course we feel with those that had their life and families devastated while innocent, by the WT BtS and/or abusive Elder actions.