Skygreen--Complaint noted-- I love women, especially the honest ones. Cougars are really honest women- my son told me all about them when he was in his mid 20's.-- he never had to pay for any dates, either.
Skygreen- I hope your family stays intact- you never know how JW spouses will react- nice one minute and then the next they take sides with the elders against you- anyway, you have a lot on your plate-- don't waste your time trying to read the motives of posters here--concentrate on you family.
The only hurt I had was from my JW wife who stabbed me in the back. I was honest- I am always telling it like it is- even if true words aren't kind. Taking the road of honesty is the best path, IMO- in the end you do find happiness- a deserved happiness, not one that was gotten through trickery.
You are an honest person- unlike some elders here who know it's a lie, but are still pretending to be good and loyal JWs- They don't see any problem with being deceptive.