Mom who regrets ever having her two kids

by skeeter1 37 Replies latest social family

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  Satanus

  Oxytocin is the brain chemical that is supposed to be in charge of bonding. I wonder if it would have made a difference for her.

  S
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  villagegirl

  Children know when they are not loved. They can tell. It is silent abandonment.

  You may go through the motions, but love is important.

  Same thing in marriage. Going through the motions with no real love

  is a cold sad lonley place even if there are others there. There are worse

  things than being alone and the worst is being with someone who does not love.
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  mamochan13

  Interesting thought - Satanus. I initially discounted your comment, not seeing the relevance. But then it dawned on me. Oxytocin does play a role in bonding. They've done studies on ceasarian births versus vaginal and found all kinds of interesting things (i.e. cesarian birth children have higher rates of developing allergies). Messing with the natural bonding mechanism of our bodies can lead to all sorts of unexpected complications.
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  LisaRose

  I think this woman's feelings are more common than we think, she is just more honest than most people. While she did not feel maternal, she at least raised her children and did the best job she could. There are a lot of parents out there who claim to love their children, but in reality are selfish and neglectful parents.
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  villagegirl

  OR worse, there are parents who torment and torture their children.

  There are parents who beat them to death, drown them, burn them,

  sexually abuse them. A parent who hates you and is cruel is the worst

  and most dangerous person. But my comment on children knowing they

  are not loved stands. Sometimes it only is realised as an adult in therapy.

  I feel sorrier for the children than for this mother. I think she should have been

  honest with her husband from the start, may be together they could have found

  help for both her and the children. Honesty is hard but without it you live in

  a trance, you do not participate in your own life.
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  ÁrbolesdeArabia

  I know my mother wished she had aborted her two JW Kids who are abusive and evil. The Kingdom Hall loves them and think's their great people, she never had the aversion to childhood this mother had. Her aversion to her kids came "the old fashion way, they earned it!"

  I wish I could share with Isabella what real trashy children look like, what they do and how much they steal and never return.

  When your children decide to marry another person, please check out the "daughter-in-law and son-in-law" and take your time to get to know this person who might help split your family into particles because of their superfine stand and weak conscience. I wish more parents would read works like Isabella's and share them with their kids that take-took their time and resources for granted.

  In the last Kingdom Hall I would see some of the fathers and mothers that loved their kids, I pray they won't experience a "Reverse Isabella" situation, where your kids turn on you when you have done nothing wrong! Parents and kids, get to know the person you are going to marry, you might surprised by the lack of respect or hatred they have for their own parents. This will rub off on you like it did with my sister who demonstrates her hatred to my parents unless she needs money or a car to drive!
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  villagegirl

  Love goes both ways of course.

  William Shakespeare wrote a whole play about

  children, greatly loved and pampered children,

  turning on their parent. The name of that play

  is King Lear, and the famous line is " How sharper than

  a serpent's tooth, a thankless child."
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  lisaBObeesa

  I think as long as her children were living she should have kept this to herself or shared her feelings anonymously.

  She says she loves her kids but publically states she wishes they were never born. That's not love to tell your kids that.

  She never came to love them.
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  LoisLane looking for Superman

  I am shocked a living, breathing mom, would write this. She has happy hormones and love for her husband but no feelings for her kids? If this is a true story, is this a cry for professional help? Imagine how hurtful this is for her sick and helpless grown daughter. I wish I had never read this.

  Just Lois
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  zeb

  I was the last of many and I regret the imposed guilt dumps. Just one example when I got a bike (refurb)it came with what it cost and what we had done without..etc and being regailed by stories of the others and what they had done wrong..

  I could have done without that.