Should I try to get my parents out?

Gabriel_Walker

Hi everyone.

I'm guessing you get this a lot, but I have to ask anyway.

First some context.

I'm 25, I was raised in the "truth" but I never got baptized, I haven't been in a kingdom's hall in 6 years, I live with my parents and we have a good relationship.

My dad doesn't have jw relatives, my mom has a few though and both have wordly friends.

So, should I try it? If you need more information just ask.

PS: English is not my first language so please forgive any gramatical or spelling mistakes you may find, also corrections are greatly apretiated.

PPS: If this the wrong section please accept my apologies and move the thread.

It is worth a shot to try to get them to see TTATT. But it takes time and patience. It is good you were never baptized however there is a risk that if you proceed you may suffer them withdrawing from you or shunning you (as bad association).

If they have been expressing some doubts or they've cooled off in their habits (meeting and assembly attendance, field serve-us, etc) then it could be a sign they know something's not quite right and your efforts may not be in vain. It also depends on how badly they want what Botchtower has promised.

There are those on this site that have good advice and have been successful. I was never able to get my parents to leave. I didn't know the whole TTATT then but I did give them things to think about.

My Mom has been gone for a while now. My Dad is suffering from dementia. He didn't leave voluntarily, his condition has forced him to leave. I am not sure he even remembers it anymore. He never talks about it.

Iamallcool

I agree with Heaven that it takes time and patience. Good Luck!

Cadellin

I think it depends on the age and circumstances of your parents. If your parents are in their 40s or 50s, then they might cope okay. My parents are in their late 70s and early 80s--it would be far too shocking to try to "wake up" an elderly person. This breaks my heart, but it's better for them emotionally to simply remain where they are.

moshe

I am suggesting you leave this subject alone, as I don't think you were planning on getting kicked out next week for apostate "talk" in front of them. The prudent thing to do is say nothing, until you formulate a better plan. Is their someone else (worldly) they know who could give that information to your parents and it wouldn't be connected to you? That way you can find out, if they are receptive before you expose yourself to them.

bigmac

hi Gabriel-Walker--welcome to jwn. your use of English is just fine--a lot better than my attempt at whatever language yours is.

whathappened

Welcome, Gabriel. By all means, start asking them the tough questions to get them to think. There are many threads on this web site that cover this area. Best of luck to you. I wish my daughter would have discovered this religion was a scam and got me out. All those lost years...

crmsicl

Would it be possible to get one of their worldy friends to pose some thoughts or questions. You could prompt them on what to say. Make sure they know it's not to be a controversial querry but more like a curiosity. Perhaps a hypothetical situation could be posed like maybe they know someone who couldn't celebrate their childs birthday but they could celebrate anniversary's. They could then ask isn't a birthday an "anniversary" of one's birth?

Maybe if the dissonance came from someone other than you, they would open up more.

LostGeneration

Do they have friends outside of the religion? Hobbies and interest outside of the KH? Would they blossom and grow if they left, or would there be a huge void in their life?

Are they outgoing, like to try new things? Or do they like the routine and safety of the KH?

As long as they have a good relationship with you, and aren't trying to force you back, i would leave it alone. Again, there is no right or wrong answer, but you do need to see the other side of this if you decide to try to get them out.

Ding

Welcome!

Do your parents have doubts already or are they totally sold on "God's organization"?

Should I try to get my parents out?

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