Newby here

by 1009 44 Replies latest jw friends

  • 1009
    1009

    Hi all,

    I am new here and briefly want to introduce myself.

    My name is Michel and I am from the Netherlands. Became baptized when I was 14, started pioneering when I got 18 and I've been MS for a number of years. I married another pioneer and after a while we joined a foreign language congregation. I always loved the 'responsabilities', and especially giving talks.

    But over the years my faith faded. My wife was asexual and I started to satisfy my sexual desires by visiting pornographic websites. I hated it, but I couldn't resist it either. When it came out, I lost all my priviliges. The elders wanted to help us. I prayed a lot. But nothing happened. It was very quiet up there in heaven. In the end (after years of praying) I drew the conclusion that Jehovah would not help me, despite all the millions of promises in the Bible.

    And oh yes, I've studied the Bible. I didn't 'study' the magazines like most of JW: I really loved studying the Bible. I had about 50 different translations, and I used them. Bookshelfs with excellent dictionaries and commentaries. And some other friends who were a lot of deeper into studying as the average JW. I learned that the NW has a lot of flaws. That not all answers in the literature are based upon the Bible.

    Finally I met a beautiful woman. I got divorced and DF. And recently I married my new love.

    And now I am happier as ever.

    Nice meeting you all.

    Michel

  • HarryMac
    HarryMac

    Hi Michel, I am also a noob, lol. For what it's worth... nice to meet you! Thanks for the introduction.

  • Julia Orwell
    Julia Orwell

    Hiya, glad you're happy. Sorry about your first wife: what does it mean to be asexual?

    Look forward to reading your stories brother :)

  • Amelia Ashton
    Amelia Ashton

    A warm welcome to both of you

  • Pickler
    Pickler

    Welcome Michel,

    happy to hear you've found a better life, look forward to hearing more from you.

  • Lozhasleft
    Lozhasleft

    Hello and welcome!

    Loz x

  • Vidqun
    Vidqun

    Welcome 1009. I also love the Bible, also have many translations and commentaries. And there's nothing wrong with the (young) human body in all its glory. For those of us that believe in God, the female form is a magnificent creation. Nothing wrong with us showing our appreciation. Looking forward to hear your opinions and views. Glad to hear you have found a woman that's compatible with you and your situation. I have tried marriage, but was not very successful.

  • cantleave
    cantleave

    Welcome to JWN 1009.

  • cofty
    cofty

    Hi Michel, welcome.

  • 1009
    1009

    Julia Orwell said:

    Sorry about your first wife: what does it mean to be asexual?

    In the case of my ex-wife, it is a complete lack for sexual desire. She didn't like to get touched, she didn't like sex. I could... uhm... 'mount' her and do my thing, but that wasn't really satisfying for me neither.

    Over the years I sometimes thought that maybe I was the problem. But I am very gentle, not badlooking, and I don't have a bad smell. In my new relation I learned that I am completely normal. And I do not have any desire to watch any porn anymore.

    You can find more about asexuality at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality.

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