Question for the married guys (page 3)

talesin

In my experience, about 80% is not about friendship but rather attraction. That other 20%, though, can become the most wonderful friends and chosen family. I treasure my brothers-by-choice so very, very much.

xo

tal

lost

I used to be naive and think that it was possible. But, it's not. Men are men, they are governed by their chemicals, sadly.

I grew up in a very 'male mentality, dominated environment / world ' brothers, working men, proper tomboy.

Took me a long long time to figure out why my brothers were so protective (and why I rarely had any local suitors, lol, brotherly threats )

Now that I am older, have lived a little 'out side the bubble' ,I have daughters, I fully understand and thank my brothers immensely.

Unless you are both uber-moral and have known each other for years.

Playing with fire.

PleiadesPoliceman

Yes, I had many good friends, a few were my best friends who were pretty women (both mentally and physically). No sex or hanky panky was involved, it's a dangerous route for some men because they might get the roles of friendship blurred or might the female too.

Married men and women might have issues with their spouse have close friends of the opposite sex.

J. Hofer

of course it's possible. even if there is some degree of attraction, it's a long call from seeing each other for coffee and actually spending a night together.

stillin

Does he get satisfaction at home?

Long distance relationships are a fantasy, often, and when they come to fruition they are often as much a disappointment as the marriage is. Divorce follows and the cycle continues.

I have sworn myself to marital fidelity, but some women are just nice to talk with. Sadly, my wife gets angry at everything I say.

Bugbear

TwttieBird!

Is it possible for a girl NOT trying to bee as much physically attractive to a men as possible.

Im a father of 4 girls. and I have every morning waitet about 1,5 hours outside our closet to get my shave.

What did my girls do in there?

Bugbear

slimboyfat

Anything is possible. Too little information to give a sensible answer.

InChristAlone

Does (or would) this platonic friendship bother your spouse? If so, drop it. Your spouse is more important. I have several platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex, however my wife is absolutely okay with them. I have had others that she has expressed concern over. Out of love for her, I dropped them. Our marriage is happier as a result.

Simon

Wow, so many negative opinions about potential friendships with the opposite gender!

I have to tell you, I think you're missing out - it is totally possible to be married and have female friends as long as you are honest.

Two of my very best friends are girls and I think I'm a much better husband for having some female friends to occassionally tell me what I should be doing. Angharad knows them both although I was friends first (ex work colleagues) and she knows there is nothing going on if I meetup with them just as I don't have any concerns when Angharad meets up with guy friends that she knows or one of their husbands.

I think if someone was meeting up with someone and keeping quiet about it then there would be cause for concern if only because of the feeling of mistrust that would arise when the partner found out about the meeting (whether there was anything to it or not).

And of course, if the wrong feelings were to develop then it would be unwise to keep seeking out their company.

But you can be close to someone so long as it's more like 'brother and sister'.

Satanus

I agree, its possible. I have had female friends for yrs. I would say that both have to be in the friends only mode. And, it wouldn't be a secret.

S

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