My sister....

by cognac 13 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognac
    cognac

    She knows when I am lying. She knows when I am keeping a secret. She has this really weird way of reading my mind sometimes. We once went to this JW party. At the party they had this game where you were given a secret word and you could only say a one word clue to the other person and they were supposed to guess what the secret word was. The person who had to give the least amount of clues won.

    My secret word was pillar. So, I was thinking Sampson cause he had to push all those pillars down. But, I got mixed up and gave my first clue as "Solomon". She looked me dead in the eyes and said, "pillar". Everyone thought we cheated but there was no way we could have.

    She just reads me like no other person can. Both children I was pregnant with she knew I was pregnant before I told her. There were no clues and I never even told her I was trying. I don't know how she does it, but she does.

    I love her dearly. She knows where I stand and doesn't say a word about it and I know that takes great courage. She is one of the most loving, selfless persons I have ever met.

    But, her comments, even though out of love, completely break my heart sometimes and there is nothing I can do but listen...

    Sometimes hearing about how bad apostates are is completely heartbreaking. And I know she is not trying to teach me anything by saying it, I know she is not trying to hurt me in any way. I know she just tells herself that I "think a lot" and "have a lot of questions and opinions" and tries to convince herself on some level that I'm not actually an apostate. But, I know deep inside she knows what I am.

    And as close as we are, as much as we love eachother, this pains me more then anything...

  • return of parakeet
    return of parakeet

    cognac: " I know she just tells herself that I "think a lot" and "have a lot of questions and opinions" and tries to convince herself on some level that I'm not actually an apostate. But, I know deep inside she knows what I am. "

    Dubs are good at convincing themselves that ridiculous WTS doctrines are true. Let that tendency in your sister keep working when it comes to you. If she's willing to pretend you're not apostate, and you're ok with that, then let that sleeping dog lie. You may feel pain at the idea, but it's a lot less pain than you would feel if she were to shun you.

  • cognac
    cognac

    Thank you. I just wish she wouldn't make those comments. Even though they are seldem... The pain it brings me sucks...

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    I'm glad she at least still has contact with you. Mine has no contact with me. I am dead to her. And we were once very close. Hug her and tell her you love her when she says something hurtful.

  • cognac
    cognac

    The problem is, I can never actually say freely and outrightly who I am without totally losing her... And that is something in general getting harder and harder to bare...

  • cantleave
    cantleave

    Hopefully one day she too will have questions and opinions.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Sounds like shes demonized. Joke, joke. Its a tough thing you are facing.

    S

  • Nathan Natas
    Nathan Natas

    Would you be willing to try a little game with her?

    Next time you're with her, try to THINK the phrase "captives of a concept" as often as you can without letting it interfere with your spoken conversation or activites. Kind of make it a mantra for when you are near her.

    Something might happen.

  • cognac
    cognac

    NN- lol, but, it's not much different then what I already do. Like I said, it's always brief. She usually stops as soon as she said it almost like she said it by mistake.

    But, it still hurts...

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Hi cognac, Don't you have better things to talk about or do with your sister than talk about the WTBTS? Life is too wonderful, short, and unpredictable to waste time discussing the WTBTS.

    What else do you like doing or talking with your sister about?

    By the way, if JWs claim to be Christians (i.e., follow Christ), they are more apostate than christians who follow Christ, because JWs must follow the GB and elders instead of being guided by the Holy Spirit to follow Christ.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

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