She is trying to talk about the elephant in the room without accusing you directly, so I why can't you do the same? Whenever she brings it up just say "you know, there might be more to it than you know, but I don't want to discuss it", then change the subject and refuse to elaborate. I doubt she would bring it up again.
My sister....
by cognac 13 Replies latest jw friends
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cognac
ABS- It doesn't come up often. But, when it does, it hurts.
LR - That's a great idea. At least I won't be losing myself while at the same time giving her an out.
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mamochan13
Cognac - my sister and I used to be like that. We'd leave our separate houses and arrive at a location wearing virtually the same thing. *sigh* I have very little contact with her now that I've left. I'm the evil apostate, after all.
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flipper
COGNAC- I'm sorry to hear that your sister breaks your heart- but your sister is making comments to you out of a misguided CONDITIONAL type of " love " or " caring ". I know with my JW siblings they may love me- but they have been trained to show that conditional caring based on how I view their organization and since I'm not going back after 10 years of not attending meetings- it will ALWAYS be a barrier to having a authentic, real, non-stilted relationship with them communication wise. It's sad, but it's reality.
If you get a chance to read some of Steve Hassan's books on mind control those books really helped me to understand wHY my JW daughters have shunned me for 10 years and why my former friends or JW siblings treat me with disrespect. It made it easier for me once I informed myself that due to mind control by the WT Society they don't KNOW how to be really caring, authentic human beings out of the JW mindset. So just my 2 cents. Those books may really assist you in your analyzing it. Take care, hang in there. Peace out, mr. Flipper