The lack of love was the tilting point for me to leave this religion.
It was the best decision I ever made. So many things clicked when this "lack of love" behavior reared its head.
"Worldly people don't love the same as Jehovah's Witnesses"
by Comatose 43 Replies latest jw experiences
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Satanus
Well, its a good thing that the average person isn't as tribalistic and hard hearted as jws are, when they are told to be. I gather that afghanistan is like that, somewhat, among the tribes. If everyone was like that, the world would be a tougher place to live, work and travel in.
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Band on the Run
Catholic Charities. Bill and Melinfa Gates. Rockefellers. Astors and Morgans. The Sojourner Community. Taize community. Franciscand. Jesuid. Quskers. B'nsi Brith American Jewish Congress. Family Servoces. YMCA. Sslvation Army. Sisters of Char ity. Me. om, Dick * Harry. Neighbors. Strangers In stores. Cops. Firefighters. Supers. Doctors. Nurses. Dogs. Cats. Horses. Monkeys.FBI. etc
Just about anyone.
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DATA-DOG
There are messed up people everywhere, in every religion. The GB are just delusional old dudes, raised by other delusional old dudes. They are so sheltered, they don't have a clue what unconditional love is. They actually admit that there are great "wordly" people out there. How often do you hear them say, " So and so is so great, he/she would make a great JW." So, yeah..I would say that the MUST believe that worldly people do not really love each other like JW's. I have heard those exact words from stage myself, but they must believe it. To conciously admit that non-JW's love each other just as much as Dubs just cannot be! It would expose a flaw in their fairy tale snow globe they live in. The reality waiting outside is too much.
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Julia Orwell
Agreed. My reading about volunteers who help refugees and people like Fred Hollows who dedicated their lives to helping people they'd never met and could give thrm nothing made me question Jw 'love'. Also did my wonderful parents, who never were jws and never will be, but are the most kind and generous people. The support they gave me and my husband was not lost on me when the Jw parents didn't give support to their children who were engaged/newly wed. Even just talking to my physiotherapist, a wonderful young man who tells me how rewarding it is to help people achieve their goals, and my psychiatrist who works not just to cure his patients but help them reach their potential. These are people who genuinely care about people, and not just to the extent you can record on your fs report.
And the churches down the road who have outreach for the homeless, and will help anyone irrespective of their 'standing'.
Get your mum to read some books about people like Fred Hollows.
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Comatose
When I was a kid and was taken fishing I was bothered by the hooks imbedded in the fishes faces. The person who took me said, oh don't worry they don't feel pain like we do.
I think it's kind of like that for JWs. If they admitted and allowed themselves to believe that the people they live among love the same and live the same, they would have crazy cognitive dissonance about 7 billion upcoming deaths.
So they tell themselves its okay, they are just half human worldly people. They don't love like me. They are Satans spawns. They have no natural affection. I am one of gods people. I am different and special.
It's kind of similar to a style of racism or caste. Think the other race isn't as good and regular as you, so its okay to mistreat them.
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Hortensia
"Worldly people don't love the same as Jehovah's Witnesses"
Damn straight. The friends I have now know how to show genuine love and care, are sweeter and kinder than any JW I ever knew. Of course "worldly people" don't love the same as JWs. They don't have that damn silly religion teaching them it's OK not to love.
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Bella15
A lot of PARENTS would do that no matter their religion, Christians, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhist ...
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JW GoneBad
As I look around my own congregation, I can truly tell you that love is not one of our strongest qualities. Why do I say that?
A true test of love can be seen in marital relationships. Among the elders, ministerial servants and publishers in general, there are soo many that have gone thru not 1 but 2 marriage mates with a third attempt for some on the way. In our congregation there are also some separations among us with other marriages just hanging on by a thread! You multiply those past and present broken marriages by the 30+ congregations in our circuit and you get a hefty amout of fragmented marriages among JWs in our area alone.
Jesus said at Jh 13:35: 'All will know you are my disciples if you have love among yourselves'.....sorry, love in the family is one thing that is greatly lacking among Jehovah's Witnesses around these parts!
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joe134cd
Yeah I'm just trying to get the dubbies to show enough love to go around and visit my sick grandmother, for any other purpose than recording FS hours. Her neighbours do more for her.
We had a family in the cong say they no longer wanted to attend the meetings because no one visited them. I don't really blame them.
I had to kick a brother out of my home that I was renting because of his abusive demeaning and threatening nature.
If I ever had a witness come for a visit it would give me such a fright I would have a heart attack. Sometimes I even felt hurt that I get left out of things. Now they don't have to bother cause I'm fading.
I don't think the watchtower has fully gasped this yet. But if they are wanting to grow the organisation this will not come from knocking on doors but will come from better care and retention of existing members. If a customer aint happy with the service they are getting they will look some where else.