What you are going through is what Jesus Christ said would happen.
The question you have to answer in your mind is whether someone has screwed around with Jesus Christs baptism.
If you can come to terms with that then there is a large degree of comfort which can be obtained.
Luke 12:49-53
"I came to start a fire on the earth, and what more is there for me to wish if it has already been lighted? 50 Indeed, I have a baptism with which to be baptized, and how I am being distressed until it is finished! 51 Do YOU imagine I came to give peace on the earth? No, indeed, I tell YOU, but rather division. 52 For from now on there will be five in one house divided, three against two and two against three. 53 They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against [her] mother, mother-in-law against [her] daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against [her] mother-in-law."
The situation you (and many others) describe above profoundly fits with Jesus Christs words.
What he said would happen, is really happening!
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