Def a breath of fresh air..... AC is.....
Need Advice On Shunning My Dying Dad, Please Advise!
by AuntConnie 32 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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Oubliette
Jeffro: I'm trying to work out whether AuntConnie is a sociopath or merely an unskilled satirist.
Definitely the latter, but probably both!
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caliber
shunning everyone who does not meet our expectations or that of the Governing Body! That is where I am at in my life, after fifty-seven years of a glorious life in the Truth, I am almost 99% dead to emotional concerns to anyone who can't jump through all the hoops or keep up with Jehovah's Organizational Chariot
Cognitive Dissonance
http://psychology.about.com/od/cognitivepsychology/f/dissonance.htm
Cognitive dissonance can occur in many areas of life, but it is particularly evident in situations where an individual's behavior conflicts with beliefs that are integral to his or her self-identity. For example, consider a situation in which a woman who values financial security is in a relationship with a man who is financially irresponsible.
The conflict:
It is important for her to be financially secure.
She is dating a man who is financially unstable.
In order to reduce this dissonance between belief and behavior, she can either leave the relationship or reduce her emphasis on financial security. In the case of the second option, dissonance could be further minimized by emphasizing the positive qualities of her significant other rather than focusing on his perceived flaws.
There are three key strategies to reduce or minimize cognitive dissonance:(1)Focus on more supportive beliefs that outweigh the dissonant belief or behavior. ( stick to the small circle of friends that confirm strong judgemental beliefs)
(2)Reduce the importance of the conflicting belief.(have a sense of humor about it) maybe posting something on-line
(3)Change the conflicting belief so that it is consistent with other beliefs or behaviors. (go to your father believing family bonds override organizational bonds )
So it comes down to pleasing the so called "justice" verses the compassion and empathy that your heart speaks to you. It is a battle of the heart verses the mind.
What will you focus on , facts are facts ? ....the only thing you control is your perception or else disappoint someonebut we all must live with our own conscience
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man