What can I do??

Nenmco

First, I am married, but the marriage ended 11 years ago. No sex, no emotion, just roommates paying the bills. I met a wonderful JW gal about a year ago and we have been friends. She is divorced. She is firm in her JW beliefs and I respect that, but I am finding myself falling for her. She is late 50's, I'm early 60's.

I am afraid to even kiss her for fear she would feel like she had committed a sin and would have to report herself to the elders and go thru the humiliation of that whole process.

I just want to hold her in my arms and feel the warmth and comfort of being loved. What can I do, and keep her secure in her faith?

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ShirleyW

You don't sound any different from any other man from any other religion, the marriage is over, just playing roommates but attracted to someone else.

But, first of all, is the feeling mutual, I asked since you said you want to kiss her, but then you could just be dreaming about her and having that happen

scary21

First get a divorice.....or forget about it.Even If you got a divorice ( up to 12 months ) you would still have to become a JW, that could take another 12 months. So if you get right on that you could be holding her in 2 yrs. If everything goes according to the plan. Sorry

If she married you and you were not a JW, she would be marked. She may resent you for that later on. If she has an affair with a married man she will be disfellowshiped and will never be able to see you again if she wants to come back.. For her to get back in takes about a year too. How does that sound to you ?

Sherry

rebel8

I might be missing something, but it sounds like you are asking us to advise you on how to cheat on your wife without the mistress feeling guilty.

ABibleStudent

Welcome Nenmco, Are you a JW? From your post it seems that you are not. Before you continue to fantasize about this JW women, learn more about what a JW believes. You can ask your friend, but she will probably arrange for you to do a Bible study (i.e., mind-control indoctrination) with a brother. You can also visit websites like www.jwfacts.com, www.watchtowerdocuments.com, www.jwsurvey.org, www.freeminds2.org, www.freedomofmind.com, etc to learn more about the Watchtower and how dangerous cults behave.

You would be much better off seeing a marriage counselor about improving communication with your wife and rekindling your love for her, if it is possible, or to make a decision about your marriage, then to try to kiss your JW friend. Just remember that unless JWs awaken from the WTBTS's BITE control techniques, they will only love you conditionally as long as you never disagree with the WTBTS.

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

Nenmco

Thank you all for the responses, Scary Sherry, you seem pretty hard set on this. When I was growing up, you became attracted to someone and persued it till it you had a relationship or found it to be a bust. In the JW system, you must pass a slew of hurdles and stay within boundaries that really make a relationship hard to establish. YOU in particular, seem to want to discourage me from finding some happiness. Can you tell me why that is?

joe134cd

To complicated, to many issues. You need to concentrate on making your present relationship work. Drop it like a lead weight would be my advise.

Narcissistic Supply

If you have to ask. You'r not being a man. Grow a pair.....

Nenmco

Never thought I would be meet with any real help here, but I tried. I guess this reinforces the fact that religion needs to stay WAY away from a person's emotional life. Does Jehovah smile when he sees tears in my eyes? I think not. But you? I think so. Have a wonderful self centered life.

Narcissistic Supply

thats intersting. tell me more.

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