I smell a troll.
What can I do??
by Nenmco 20 Replies latest social relationships
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GLTirebiter
What Rebel8 said: "It sounds like you are asking us to advise you on how to cheat on your wife without the mistress feeling guilty."
Your marriage may be in bad shape, but you are a married man. Behave accordingly. In other words, man up!
What can I do, and keep her secure in her faith?
If your "wonderful JW gal" really is a faithful JW, she does not want to be romantically involved with a married man. If she is found to be engaging in "loose conduct" with you, she will experience "the humiliation of that whole process", as you put it. Would you really want her to go through that? A little local gossip is all it takes to bring that on.
want to discourage me from finding some happiness
If you really are "looking for happiness", you will do it properly and honorably. Your own post shows your misgivings about this. Be honest with yourself.
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whathappened
Even if you divorced your wife, she cannot marry you unless you had scriptural grounds for divorce, ie, your wife has to comit adultery, honey. You see you are not scripturaly free to remarry and therefor if she would marry you, she would be considered an adulteress. It is confusing, we know.
You have fallen for a woman who is in a cult, a high control cult! Your best bet is to try to get her out of JW. She will be disfellowshipped if she has any sexual contact with you. She will be shunned by family and friends who are JWs. You had better be worth it.
Best of luck to both of you. You will need it.
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Narcissistic Supply
Buddy, It sounds like your not getting laid and you want somebody to feel sorry for you. I don't. But you have fun anyway.
Bye.
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jgnat
It's about time you ended your marriage properly.
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garyneal
Yeah, if you are still married, you need to end that marriage first BEFORE persuing this witness woman.
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Iamallcool
get a divorce, once she knows that you are divorced, ask her out for dinner. If she say Yes. Great. If she says No, forget it. You can kiss her LATER only if the feeling is mutual.
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poopieskoopie
I know what it is like to be in a marriage WAY to long. I have no way of knowing EXACTLY what you are dealing with but Had I stayed in my marriage I would be dead. I agree with jgnat...get out the right way and also spend some time with yourself. You will have to jump through a lot of hoops to be with this woman and if you are doing that just to be with her, you will be lying to her. Have you asked her what she wants??
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scary21
Of course I want you to be happy. I wish everyone could be in a loving relationship if that is their wish. With a JW it gets so much more complcated that's all. Some women are ok with having an affair with a married man, or having a relationship without marriage. NOT for a JW. NOT ever going to happen. I just told you what you would have to do in order for your dream to come true.
As others have said " how does she feel about you " ? If you did all this, would she want to be with you ?
Whathappened, I thought of that too...him not being free to remarry, but is he under JW rules ? How long in the past would the divorice have to be?If a worldly man got a divorce five years ago, and he just became a JW, would they ask him those questions if he wanted to marry ? Ten years ? Could he just say he broke the marrige bond when he was in the world and didn't know better ?
Sherry
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scary21
So would he have to go have sex , like maybe with a prostitute first...in order to be free...in order to be with the Jw woman ?..OMG it's so confusing