My daughter has been officially df’d, unfortunately...

by suavojr 20 Replies latest jw experiences

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  suavojr

  Unfortunately she still does not know TTATT... the good thing is that my wife (her mom) IS NOT SHUNNING HER!

  I gave my daughter love & comfort and told her that nobody is ever going to divide us, I might not be happy with all of her choices and decisions but I just want her to be happy. My family is still asleep and still thinks this is The Truth™ and my wife wants her to come back. I think this is a great opportunity for me to show her the damage that shunning causes.

  Any strategies as to how I can show her the light version of TTATT?
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  Wasanelder Once

  I get it now, the daughter thinks its still the Truth even though DF'd. Its ingrained ya know. So you have to take opportunities to point out why what negatives she comments on that are honest observations are valid. Build on them. What worked for you? She's blood so just give it to her in limited amounts in the areas that impressed you about TTATT. Something will get through. Good luck.
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  suavojr

  Reading CoC worked for me, but I know it takes years before you get the courage to investigate your personal doubts. I just get mad that my wife won't shun but will not hear anything against the Borg!
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  label licker

  Never judge and just love her unconditionally. Love her for the unique personality that she is and that the journey she is on, she never has to worry about being alone. That you will always be there for her through good times and bad and to never ever be afraid of coming to you when she has questions about anything anytime. And always commend her showing that you will always support her. Just love her!!!!!!!
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  losingit

  Honestly, it took the loneliness from being df'd for me to find out TTATT. I had so many issues as to how things were working out in the congregations I was in, but it did not make me question the organization as a whole. The misery from beng df'd and alone woke me up.
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  suavojr

  Yes, that is my determination. I am going to love my family no matter what! It is the right thing to do. It is just frustrating to see them stuck in a doomsday movement and in my case having to play along with these charlatans
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  sspo

  my wife (her mom) IS NOT SHUNNING HER!

  Hope your wife will continue to do so and show love or see the wickedness of your daughter being shunned.

  I have 2 daughters that left the organization, one is DF and the other walked away many years ago.

  My ex wife still a JW had a decent relationship with both of them but just a week ago, she attended a circuit assembly, she did not even drive home, stopped by my daughters and told them she will not have anything to do with them anymore since they were not making the meetings and that they were serving the devil.

  So don't know what was said at the assembly but it's disgusting what this religion does to family.
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  Crazyguy

  I wonder if just sharing a scripture or two would be enough to open her eyes, like luke 21:8 in the new king james bible or better yet read Rev. chapter 4 were it shows that John is in heaven during this part of his vision and then show her chapter 7 were the 144k are sealed on earth and the great crowd are in heaven before the throne. Maybe if she sees this inaccurate teaching (1 of many) it will open up her mind for more TTATT.
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  adamah

  suavojr said-

  Yes, that is my determination. I am going to love my family no matter what! It is the right thing to do. It is just frustrating to see them stuck in a doomsday movement and in my case having to play along with these charlatans.

  Good for you to have the courage of your convictions to do what is RIGHT, and not just going along with what the group demands. Your daughter is very lucky to have such a strong parent, a true role model worthy of emulation. She may not thank you now or next year, but some day she's going to realize what a great Father she has!

  Adam
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  Quarterback

  Continue to show love, and let her know that your door is always opened for her when she needs your help.

  I unserstand about the matter of not approving some of her choices, but time will go on and all of this will be in the past. Commend her for any improvements that she makes.