by freedom2bme 36 Replies latest jw friends
JW families are often messy, selfish and contradictory. You've got a partner and a real life. Focus on those.
I thought NPG meant non-practicing gay also.
I'm sorry you feel so badly about your sister's rejection of you at such an important event in her life. They don't really "get" the concept of family.
Hey onthewayout. Thanks for the welcome and also for the need to clarify the NPG reference. I added the meaning to make it more clear what I meant. At the moment I feel like a complete train wreck with all that is going on. Not just 4 months ago this same sister literally begged me to come up for a get together with family members as neices and nephews from Florida were visiting. So you can see how this is a huge shock to now all of the sudden be shunned and made to feel humiliated. I don't know where I would be right now had I not found my voice on forums such as this...
hey comatose. thanks for the welcome. If I thought she would read it I would send the link and reference you mentioned but I'm certain she has been warned to be cautious of any replies containing "apostate" lit. I actually have a drs appt next Thurs again. He wanted to try anti depressants when I was there 3 weeks ago but I think they're too readily prescribed. may just have to give them a try as I cant go on feeling so shitty. Sorry to her you too are going through some crappy issues yourself at the moment.
Welcome, I am sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. There are many on this board that have been in-invited from an event too. I don't have much to add but JW's are usually very phobic about gays and for that reason her husband to be may be the problem. If he is a NPG he probably is very uncomfortable around you because you can see what he is doing. For me personally I would talk privately with your sister and let her know how much this has hurt you. Remind her of when her husband died and how you gave up your life to help her. Sometimes people need to be reminded of things from the past. They get so caught up in the JW dogma. Also, sometimes we are afraid to tell a loved one our feelings and so it goes unsaid and there are hurt feelings when the situation could have been corrected with a discussion. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
to just add a little bit of irony to the sutuation...when I was 16 this same sister asked me to go with them to Michigan to be a "witness" to her and her first husbands decision to elope. All before either of us were JDubs of course
Welcome friend. Sorry you have been treated this way. You have to go out and find what will make you happy. Don't let others ruin your wonderful life.
hello SOP. The reason I said originally was she because a few days later she texted me sayig she was having difficulty with her decision to not attend and said she didnt totally renig on her invitation that we were invited there any time which told me he was planning on attending after all.
hello jam. wow! That had to be hard to hear. All I can think is they are so wrapped up in appearances that they fail to see just how they are pushing away those family members that most of all are in need of human compassion and love. How they think this is in anyway a productive or respected act is way beyond my reasoning capabilities
FREEDOM2BME - Nice to have you here my friend. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this treatment. You are not alone. Many of us have received similar treatment from JW relatives and former friends. Please know that we are here for you. Don't waste time on people who will not accept you for who you are as a person. You are a great person and deserve to have respect and honor shown to you. Many times JW's do NOT show respect for us as they consider themselves superior to any of us who stop attending. Even though they aren't superior - they consider themselves such. Hang in there. Things will get better in time
Personally, I feel there is WAY too much going on in your story for there to be any traction for movement in a positive direction. It's just not going to happen. There is just too much weight in ground that saturated with muddy justifications.
If you have to be there, simplify... ALL THIS. just work on one issue at a time. The NPG thing is one of the most harmful psychological pressures the religion has to offer and will lead to bigger problems. My two cents would be pack your shit and get the hell out to a bigger city.
