G'Day joel.
Mate you gotta get a focal point set up from within, get a focus on something you know well and are comfortable with.
For example for me i have many things, when i was young i would buy a new pair of sneakers. I would love that, i'd run in them making comment on how comfy they were, i would sleep with them beside me and look forward to wearing them to school, ahhh walking to school with my new converse's, id run around at school and out perform those with say dunlop volley's and not that i would feel superior, but i would feel fortunate and appreciative of my situation.
You must have something you can draw on mate ??
Also i refer you to a question posed to a buddhist thinker. The answer i dont agree with but if you think about it long enough it may be of comfort.
If i can help in another way my mail is open.
Q: Are we advised not to defend ourselves when somebody tries to harm us?
A: This question introduces a very extensive subject. If someone hits you over the head with a club or stick, the best response is to meditate that you are experiencing this because of your own past negative actions. Think how this person is allowing this particular karmic debt to ripen now, rather than sometime in the future. You should feel gratitude that he has eliminated this black karmic debt from your mindstream.