no birthday celebration after all

by losingit 16 Replies latest jw friends

  • ShirleyW
    ShirleyW

    What jwdaughter and adamah said. . . .

  • Bruja-del-Sol
    Bruja-del-Sol

    First I agree with the previous posters, a boyfriend being that jealous about someone from your past doesn't deserve your love!

    And I also like to say that in a way you're right, birthdays aren't always that special. Don't make it a bigger thing than it is! Sometimes birthdays are a blast, with lots of fun, laughter and happiness... and sometimes they just suck. My husband's birthday last year was a great party with his family and our friends who all came to visit. This year his birthday was just not so good... *understatement*... All our friends and family are far away now that we've moved to Spain, and we had a lot of stress to deal with so we took it out on each other and that way his birthday was nothing but a disappointment. (My own birthdays are never special... I still have a problem celebrating them other than having a dinner and a glass of wine with hubby).

    So like I said, birthdays can be a joy, but don't get your expectations up too high or you'll be disappointed.

    And you know what? Before you know it another year has passed... time for another birthday

  • Oubliette
    Oubliette

    Happy Birthday!

    You deserve better than a jealous boyfriend.

    Oubliette

  • DesirousOfChange
    DesirousOfChange

    Birthday girl -- time to go shopping.

    While you're out, pick up a cute new dude and get laid. You'll feel better.

    They old boyfriend will realize you ain't his property.

    Doc

  • Laika
    Laika

    On my first birthday, earlier this year, I had to stop a fight between my brother-in-law and a homeless man. Crap happens, sleep it off and you'll feel better soon.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    Go back, and I guarantee you will make an already bad situation even worse. They will do all they can to restrict you from finding a decent boyfriend and may well hook you up with someone that is a real tyrant. They are excellent at forced mixing of types you are not attracted to, especially by limiting the stock to the same 500 or so from your mini-circuit. Look outside, and you will be censored. And usually, what is available is the scum that will happily hound you to pious-sneer.

    Besides this, it will be with many additional problems. Try giving all your "surplus" funds to the Worldwide Pedophile Defense Fund instead of enjoying it or using it to prepare for the next Sandy. Then try cutting back on your secular work, limiting future funds, and doing more field circus. That is nothing but drudgery. You will be impoverished, and up sxxxcreek without a paddle, in a barbed wire canoe, when hyperinflation or the next major blackout (or energy crisis) comes. Recreation will be extremely limited, further limiting you from enjoying anything. You can just as easily take a nap in front of the TV screen as at the Kingdumb Hell, but with less risk of being hounded.

    And try wasting all your free time in field circus. That is their stock "solution(??)" to everything. You will not meet anyone worthwhile while in field circus, and you will be forced to shoot down whatever you might find with a sermon on sexual repression. And just wait until you have to place a rag against fornication or marrying (or dating) worldly people and see how far you get. You will also be wasting your time. And for what? Nothing. Going around endlessly around the same territory, not even reducing the amount left. Even if you get a call, it will be to study the washtowel teach book and the LIE-ble, not for fun. You will have to hound your new study to throw away things they cherish. You yourself will be asked to throw away everything you find of sentimental value, such as good music and your videos.

    Things like having a crappy birthday, a dreary Christmas, and a crappy New Year happen. But, going back to the washtowel on account of a dreary Christmas or crappy birthday is going to make everything else dreary and crappy.

  • NeverKnew
    NeverKnew

    LosingIt -

    Non-jw here. You've never been offended by a JW before? If not, you're going to have to develop a thicker skin and definitely deepen your relationships with other non-jws.

    I remember the first time I sneezed in a roomful of JWs. I was totally confused by the failure of any one of these pious ones to say, "Bless You." Silly me! They may as well have said in unison, "F you!"

    I remember the first time I told two of them - on the day of my birthday that it WAS my birthday. Awkward silence followed.... WTH? I felt like screaming... "Let's practice. The POLITE response is, 'oh! I didn't know!... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!'" They may as well have said, "F you."

    I remember the first time I invited one to meet a family member who was coming into town on Thanksgiving. No response and no appearance. Their failure to respond was rude. I would have appreciated it if they would have said, "F you." At least I would have known they weren't coming.

    I remember the first time I was told that the reason for not visiting a church was because of a desire to only be involved with "TRUE" worship. I'm thinking they may as well have said, "F you." I would have gotten that.

    I remember the first time I heard the phrase, "I'm not leaving Jehovah..." after I presented a carefully constructed offer to show the arguments (courtroom-style argument, not combative argument) that supported Trinitarianism. Took me a few minutes, but I soon realized the response translated to, "F you."

    I remember ALL the times I've asked JWs to support THEIR doctrines with respect to

    • Jesus being their mediator,
    • The word "Jehovah" being the creation of a Roman Catholic monk (according to THEIR literature),
    • The year 1914 being originally a prophecy of Armegeddon,
    • The year 606 being the original date of the destruction of the temple that was later moved to 607,
    • Nobody else on planet Earth knowing anything about 607 being the date of the destruction - INCLUDING THE JEWS THEMSELVES,
    • Michael aka Christ,
    • Marriages after Armegeddon being non-existent,
    • the 144,000 being Jewish male virgins,
    • ... should I go on?

    Guess my response for each query ...either they pulled a disappearing act or stated "I can't give you any more information than I already have. THAT'S the answer."

    Each of them may as well have said, "F you."

    Go disppear with a non-jw and have coffee. When your BF finally says, what'd you do?... tell him you spent the time with non-jws and really appreciated their celebration of your existence in this world.

    "F" him.

    I doubt that you do, but gosh I wish you lived near me. *giggling*

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