Narcisstic Personality Disorder...

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Hi,

I would value any shared opinions or expereinces people have had with narcisstic people.

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hope i am not being " narcisstic" ..bump

Zandor

I've had some first-hand experience with someone who has NPD.

Don't have time to write about it at the moment, but I will share later this evening.

jgnat

Why give them any more air time? LOL.

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As a supervisor, I had to go against my grain and FEED my narcissists. They are emotional black holes, however, so I'd have to FEED them again next time I saw them. Once fed, they would calm down and work. I was chiefly interested in keeping them from disrupting my good workers.

jgnat

Oh, in dealing with my narcissist mother, I learned the glories of BOUNDARIES. I get cold, impersonal, and firm when mom oversteps them.

As an example, mom just recently lost her long-time partner and had to get through the funeral and all the other things that go with that. This required obligatory calls to family and mom was miffed that my sister wasn't returning her calls. She asked me to check up on her. I found out my sister was away for the weekend, confirmed that the message was received, and reassured mom. A week later mom was still harping that my sister wasn't calling (trying to make it my problem). I got cold, impersonal, and firm and told mom that my sister would call when she is good and ready.

new hope and happiness

Thanks jgnat

I hadnt, posted here for 2 months, but i always appreciated your comments on my past topics.

may i ask, why do you say your mother was " narcisstic"?

I think i am dealing with a " narcissic" ..but how can i be sure?

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jgnat..i mean what is a narcisstic?

fresh prince of ohio

fpoo has been told by his therapist that he has "tendencies". But also that a person with full-on NPD would never seek out a therapist.

BackseatDevil

I'm usually the most narcissistic person in the room. LOL.

The difference is that I don't show it. Being narcissitic and displaying narcissim can be two very very different things. The more one displays narcissism, the more likely they are overcompensating for an insecurity.

If it is annoy me (or the room), I will seek it out the insecurity, find it, and make the person feel calmer about it by trumping their insecurity with one of my own experiences of similar subject, but on a worse level. Respectful commonality usually diffuses it. (Think of the difference between being an flying eagle and saying "I can make any decision I want!" and being the guy on the ground saying "I can tell the predictable flying pattern of that eagle".)

Also, quickly moving on from that and asking their opinion about other subjects dislodges their focus on themselves... because you are wanting THEIR opinion. It's hard to be narcissistic AND give honest opinion answers at the same time, especially when playfully challenged. One if not a combo of the two techniques work well. But gut movement is very dangerous. The more you SEE narcissism, the more it is only just a sheet of glass, and any knee-jerk reaction will shatter it, but get glass everywhere and it can hurt a lot of people in the process. So if you can't work within this, just walk away. Eventually someone like me will run across them and break their legs. LOL.

Because I'm awesome like that.

You're welcome.

fresh prince of ohio

The definition of it is pretty devastating if you see your own self in it. narcissitic people do a whole lotta damage to other pppl. :(

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