Ozzies Both,
I am very sorry to hear that you are suffering at the hands of those who are closest to you. It must be a very lonely path to walk.
You have my mail address if there is anything that we can do for you at this end.
My wife and I still chuckle at the 'footwear' descriptions you made of a mutual friend. This way to the elevator....lol
Try to keep hopeful - HS