suggestions for elder a nd co visit

by Shaul 15 Replies latest jw friends

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  snare&racket

  I guess it depends what you want in life....

  If you want you and your family out of the cult, staying in it wont help. It wont be easy, it may take time, so bear that in mind.

  why not sit down with your kids and tell.them how you feel, dont commit to anything and test the waters. Do a slow fade if the kids are not likewise currently doubting. I get the sense, especially in the UK and USA that more than ever people are doubting and questioning. I have always seen the first member of the family that leaves of their own will as someone who the others can talk to, seek advice and follow out of the fog of misinformation.

  If you decide to do that, it is very important to be very informed so you can show then where and when Watchtower lied and how consistantly they are wrong and misinforing their followers.
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  cha ching

  So, what happened Shaul?
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  Shaul

  Hi cha ching : it went well . I used the can't take the stress . I had a nevious break down before and felt it coming again . I really have had health problems the last two yrs . Stress brought it on I was told . So anyway they tried to encourage me to come back . I told them how the way I was treated there added to the stress . They left both hugging me . I said I'd have to see how my nerves where and take it from there . So it was left at that . We have six children . Three dont believe it anymore . Three are very cult minded . You can show them things and they can find a way around it . So we keep trying . I still believe in Yehovah just not this org . We'll see what comes next .
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  JWdaughter

  Shaul, I am late to this party, but I am glad to hear that you handled it perfectly. I'm glad you have half of your kids free. My best to you-be well, take care of yourself and let your JW and non JW kids do their duty to you! Ask them for help when you need it since some of them are so worried about you!
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  jgnat

  You got through it, which is what counts. They got to check off the visit, so they should be satisifed for a while. As for children, my dad smoked and my mother didn't. My sister and I don't smoke and my brother does. Dad's quit now, but of course he is paying the price. The point is, you don't get to choose which way your children will roll.
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  cha ching

  YAY! Glad you made it... :-)

  Try to use your time getting close to your kids, having funtimes!

  Creating good memories :-) Close bonds will be a factor for the future.

  Maybe some of your 'cult minded 3' stay in because of friends??

  If their friends leave, or circumstances change in the congregation, they'll still have YOU!

  One day at a time, and give yourself time to heal.

  hugs, cha ching