It seems I don't have any friends anymore in school.

by clycleng 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  clycleng

  Thank you all for your responses. My college stresses Catholic traditions. We can't wear anything we like, we can't dye our hair, and stuffs teens want to. But it's okay, that's not the problem here. I mean, I'm in a situation that's really hard to fit in. Some students won't talk to me because they thought I was so unfriendly (maybe because I have that serious face look). And the people in my college seem like they take advantages to people. Because we strive hard to pass and to graduate, some of the students ask you for a favor never will say "thank you" at least. Then when you ask "Can you help me...", they'll answer immediately "Sorry, I'm busy."

  Like, really? It's tight and suffocating here. Fraternity/sorority here is really bad. It's labeled here as "gang" you know like those riots and wars. And thank you for suggesting clubs because I think I should be getting one :) It's really hard to be alone when you think you don't deserve to be alone. I am a friendly person, I talk to different kinds of people whether they are believers or not. If I think I don't deserve to be alone, then it's not hard to make friends right? Thank you so much :)
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  jgnat

  I'm glad you checked in. I'm a friendly person too, and I wanted to know you were doing OK. It sounds like some of the people you've run in to are the competitive, user types. Stop doing favors for them. You are too busy looking for good friends to hang out with. In any population there are going to be users and there are going to be slightly lonely friendly types like you. Be on the lookout for people like you and you just might find yourself a new friend.

  Stay away from the sorority.
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  Band on the Run

  I wonder why you chose such a college. College was a relatively safe time of exploration and meeting many different cultures. Everyone seemed on the Left. There were many foreign students. I don't know how large the institution is. Even the conservative Catholics had groups available to them. There are probably other students hiding in their dorms rooms. In fact, the men ran an ad in the male student newspaper suggesting remedies to spending the night alone. The female newspaper never ran the ad.

  I've told you I don't understand the social dynamics of women. Some people are fools about their notes. I would miss class and see pages of handwritten notes that looked like notes. When I would ask to borrow notes, sorry, prof said nothing. I thought some women were bad. Later, I audited classes at the Episcopal Seminary in NY. These were men and women dedicated to becoming priests. No notes. They were insultled that I asked. I explained that I was auditing class to become a canonical lawyer. We were not competing. Sooner or later, these note huggers will miss class.

  You might want to join group therapy sessions. My nephew did when he first started college. He had problems making friends and was going to drop out. Once he joined the group, he found out that others were finding it difficult. He became class president. The transformation in my nephew was incredible. He was a shy, momma's boy. Now he loves socializing with friends galore. Find your niche group. You don't need FB friends. A few good friends make all the difference.