Just become a window washer..............ya that.

ctrwtf

I"m normally the kind of guy that likes to count his blessings. I've got two great kids. And a super wife who loves me despite myself. I've also successfully faded along with my entire family. I live in a beautiful setting with terrific neighbors. But......

Lately I've been bummed about my job. I'm basically an overpaid construction worker. Sometimes I enjoy the fact that I'm always outdoors, although the winter really sucks. I enjoy the physical aspect of my work as well. It keeps me in shape (sort of). And the money's good, I get paid more than many professionals. It is also mind numbingly boring.

The thing that is bugging me the most is the fact that I'm just a manual laborer. No, not the President of Mexico. Prior to getting involved with the cult, both my parents had post graduate degrees with professional careers. Although they have both passed away, I find myself being more resentful of them for putting me in this position. Some might say, "you have the power to change your situation." But at this point in my life, it's just not realistic. So I will labor on.

I know that there are many who share this same situation. My question is how do you mentally cope?

caroline77

You seem to be in a very good position, but just bored stiff. I used to have a job like that. I don't have a solution, but a lot of people I worked with were in exactly the same position. It makes you want to scream. Sorry I can't help. I wish I had the answer...but these jobs have to be done.

Hortenzie

Find and interesting hobby, read educational books about subjects that interest you, do something creative, do something helpful for other human beings (volunteer work with your family), take an online course, join a sport club (with your family)... If you are not motivated and feel you might be depressed visit a doctor or go for counseling...

And remember to count your blessings (think of the endless millions of people who wish for life like yours) and that just talking about it with strangers on the Internet will not help (maybe talk to your wife, family, friends, who know you and may have helpful suggestions).

Good luck! I hope you feel better soon.

(I, personally, do manual work (run letter processing machine) but keep my brain always busy - I read intresting books (history, religion, philosophy, travel...) during my breaks and then think about it when I work - and the time flies. P.S. I'm in it for the money and the benefits).

Splash

I did a mind numbing job for a while too. Coped better when I started reading non-fiction to stimulate the brain.

Can you do an evening course?
Can you get qualifications in your current job and become a trainer, foreman or inspector?
Can you see ways to improve the efficiency of what you're involved in, and present these to your contractor?

Normally, a searching mind can also find a solution.

Splash.

Hortenzie

I like the idea about trying to find a more challenging position within your company. See what the options are and then work toward fulfilling the requirements.

BizzyBee

Your real question is - "How do I deal with the resentment I feel toward my parents?"

Some find it helpful to write it all down in a letter to the offending party (even if that party is no longer alive). Explain to your parent's how their belief system was imposed upon you and has materially affected your life in a negative way, that you were denied the educational opportunities that they themselves enjoyed. Include the things that you personally would have done differently had you not been hamstrung by the WTS. And try to say a few words about how you forgive them - they were misled also.

This will help with the resentment part of your dilemma.

Oubliette

You're only stuck if you think you are. There are many excellent options for Higher Education if you really want that.

It's not like the pre-internet age where you actually had to attend classes ON campus. Now it's relatively easy to find colleges and univerities offering online and distance learning programs.

You just gotta' wanna'.

rip van winkle

You are a lucky, lucky man to have a wonderful family life, living in lovely surroundings, are healthy, and well paid for a job you enjoy.

I guess you feel there is so much more you could have become? So, you are a little upset with your deceased parents for not guiding you to better yourself?

Sounds to me that you have it all-- including-- boredom! Or perhaps you are at the age where you start questioning life decisions?

What would you like to do that will help you fulfill what you feel is lacking in your life?

Oubliette

"It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot

Justmenthedogs

I have those same feelings, I have blamed the organization for not encouraging parents to send their kids to college for years. I did go to school to be a CNA and also a Medical Assistant against my parents wishes but they were trade schools and it has at least allowed me to make a living as a single person and enjoy my life. Had I gone straight out of school I would be much better off. I have always wondered if cleaning houses and office buildings was enough for the JW's? Which is what I was told to do.

Just become a window washer..............ya that.

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