Actually teachng my wife the BItE model was going to be my next idea lol...i was gonna use the "i talked to a scientologist patient today at work and helped him figure out why its a cult" approach and see if that triggered anything.
My wife and i, cake for our daughters...hm
by Jon Preston 15 Replies latest jw friends
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humbled
I learned to do something to keep pressure off my children. (It also might help your wife examine the coercive attitude of the Corp. on children to force them into the WT)
Because I didn't want to force my children and also my husband would not tolerate strong-arm techniques, I would talk to each teacher to let them know that the child came from a family in which they were pulled by the conflicting forces of the JW religion. I let the teacher know that the child might have some confusion and inconsistencies in behavior during holidays. That it would be kind of them to respect the child's conscience in whatever they were struggling to do.
Although i was a JDub at the time, I discovered after that that the teachers were very sympathetic to the child not to embarass or humiliate the child (as I know has happened to some children).
this approach may give rise to your wife thinking about matters pertaining to freedom of choice--an essential to "love free from hypocisy".
It empowered the children. They retained freedom of mind sufficient to resist complete indoctrination. None of my seven children stayed with the Witnesses.
Good job! Good LUCK! And enjoy your cake.
Maeve
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WhoYourDaddy
Atta boy! Get your kids away from that ridiculous cult as fast as possible. Run as fast and as far as you can. You owe it to them; your kids. You are the man of the house. Step up and be a man now.
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JustMe2
I hope you'll reconsider telling her you won't go back to meetings at least for the time being. It might shock her into "waking up," in a bad way, and realize she's been slacking off in her meeting attendance and conduct. (A birthday cake--imagine!) I'm afraid if it backfired she might become determined to become "spiritually stronger." NOT the outcome you're hoping for!
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clarity
Good for you & mrs Jon ...wish my kids had not suffered thru
all that BS!
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JustMe2.........nice to see you on again Just,
looking forward to hearing your story!
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Now I am going for a walk!
clarity
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JustMe2
Clarity, Thanks! I didn't think I'd posted enough for anyone to notice! JustMe