JW Kids - More Frightened Than Most?

by Englishman 62 Replies latest jw friends

  • Englishman
    Englishman

    I’ve recently been in contact with a couple of ex-JW’s that I knew in my childhood.

    What has surfaced is the amount of fear that we experienced as young children when we were involved with the witnesses. I accept that children often do develop irrational fears as part of growing up, but what I am talking about here is a deep-seated fear of being harmed.

    Many young children that I grew up with in the witness religion were of an unusually nervous disposition. I recall how when I was first taken to meetings that I found the whole experience somewhat sinister and strange. My Father was an avid collector of old society books, and I found that the old Rutherford volumes particularly could unsettle me with their strange illustrations and weird writing.

    Looking back now, I can see that these childish fears of being harmed, fear of demons and fear of being alone must have come from the imprinting that we kids received from the WTBTS. Constant repetition about this “Wicked old world” convinced us all that the world was a very dangerous place to be, a place where even Jehovah might kill us if we didn’t measure up. The fear of being alone - early awareness of DF'ing perhaps? - was common to most of us.

    I’d be very interested to know if anyone else experienced excessive fear as a child, and whether they think that this was as a result of being brought up as a JW.

    Englishman.

  • Xander
    Xander

    Two biggest fears growing up:

    1) The great tribulation would start, and we'd be imprisoned/executed (that this would occur before I lost my virginity became a serious concern in my teen years - I kept seeing major world events happening that the society said was fulfilling scripture and thinking 'not yet, just a couple more years, PLEEEEASE, wait just a couple more years...'[8>])

    2) DEEMINZ!!! They get into your house from old books! They get into your house from TV programs!! They attack you in your sleep!!! DEEMINZ, DEEMINZ, EVERYWHERE!!!!!

    Uhhhh...I'm over all that now.....

    Xander F
    (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America - Ohio order)

    A fanatic is one who, upon losing sight of his goals, redoubles his efforts.
    --George Santayana

  • Fredhall
    Fredhall

    Hey All,

    They should be frightened of what is going on in the world. That is:

    1. Spiritism

    2. Pornography

    3. Immorality

    4. Crime

    5. World's Philosophy

    6. Sick Music

    7. All Out Hatred

  • Englishman
    Englishman

    Fred,

    They're frightened well enough. They're frightened of :

    Being killed at armageddon.

    Being abandoned by their parents if they commit a serious error.

    Being attacked by demons.

    And those fears, Buddy, come from the shower that you hold dear.

    Englishman.

  • Fredhall
    Fredhall

    Englishman,

    What is wrong of having good fear?

  • coffee_black
    coffee_black

    Because it's not good fear, Fred. It's irrational fear that can keep you from living a normal childhood.

    I remember third grade. A terrible storm came up suddenly, and it grew dark and ominous outside. I watched out the classroom window as it grew worse and worse. I was terrified that it was armageddon starting. How was I going to get home to my parents? How was my Dad going to get home from work? What was going to happen to me? To them?
    I worked myself up into a panic!

    I was afraid of every thing. Afraid of never being good enough. And even if tried my hardest, I was not sure I would make it through
    armageddon. I got baptized at age 8. Thought that might help. It didn't.

    Had a nervous stomach all my life till I left the borg.

    cb

  • Xander
    Xander

    1. Spiritism
    2. Pornography

    Is that really the top two things they should be afraid of? Witches and naked women? REALLY??

    5. World's Philosophy

    Yeah, the total sum value of millions of years of human thinking and experience is really going to cause them some trouble...

    6. Sick Music

    And, 'healthy music' is.....?

    Xander F
    (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America - Ohio order)

    A fanatic is one who, upon losing sight of his goals, redoubles his efforts.
    --George Santayana

  • Fredhall
    Fredhall

    Black Coffe,

    Believe me, I see many non JW kids that is not living a normal childhood. Those days are over for a kid having a normal life.

  • coffee_black
    coffee_black

    I think you're wrong, Fred. My cousin has 3 young girls, ages 8-11.
    They are happy, well adjusted kids. Compared to my childhood, their lives are very normal. They get to be kids. They get to do all the fun stuff kids should do at their ages. They're not fearful that armageddon will be here any minute.

    cb

  • LDH
    LDH

    Fred you make a good point -- many don't have a normal childhood.

    But when you grow up believing that your childhood is a certain way because that's the way God wants it well that is a whole 'nother scenario.

    For example, when I was young (around 8-9) the situation in Malawi and Mozambique was the big thing.

    I remember hearing an experience where a JW family had to run for their lives, and something about a bridge. There was a screaming child and the mother sacrificed their child because they were all hiding...and they didn't want the soldiers to hear them. So because the kid wouldn't quit crying the mother dropped the damn kid off the bridge to save the rest of the group.

    This experience was given from the platform while the elder boomed on and on about "MAKING our kids mind us" and "KIDS you are as good as dead if you don't listen to your parents".....will scare the crap out of an eight year old.

    For years I tried holding my breath and being as quiet as possible while pinching myself (to make sure I would be quiet/could endure torture in the "Great Tribulation")... or else I revisited this scenario again and again wondering if *I* would be dropped off a bridge. [8>]

    I can see the scene in my head right now of the mother dropping HER BABY off a bridge.

    And then I find out later all she had to do was bribe the officials like the JW did in Mexico.

    This is not normal Fred.

    Does anyone else remember this experience?

    Lisa

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