Cofty,
All I know is what Christ has done and is doing for me....quite apart from my will power.
I have been born again since 2004. I experienced the new spirit described in the scriptures. I have done things and experienced things that would have previously been impossible for me. The born again experience is a very real event. It does not happen just because you attend some particular church or not. It is God who ratifies the NT contract with a believer, not some man who baptizes you or delivers sermons on Sunday morning. In any church, there will be a significate number of unsaved people attending - irregardless of their membership status.
The nature of the new birth is clear in scripture:
1 John 3: 8b & 9 - For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.
From God's point of view there are three "YOU'S". You have flesh and you are flesh. You are spirit and at the same time you have a spirit. You have a soul and you are a soul.
The Watchtower makes a big deal out of the phrase "Adam became a living soul", trying to make the argument that Adam was given a soul and was not a soul also. However, other scriptures contridict this materialist view and call "you" (or they) a soul. For example :
Rev. 6: 9 & 10 - I saw under the altar the souls of those who had been slain because of the word of God and the testimony they had maintained. 10 They called out in a loud voice, “How long, Sovereign Lord, holy and true, until you judge the inhabitants of the earth and avenge our blood?”
We use similar interchangableness of terms when talkng about our body. The two following statements still mean "you" even though the words are different:
1. She pinched my arm.
2. She pinched me.
Both statements mean "YOU".
A person can know that he is born again if he continues to keep God's commandmants AND if he has the internal withness of the Holy Spirit that bares witness with our spirit that we are the Children of God.
1 John 3: 24 And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
This is the work of God "not of man, lest anyone should boast". Eph. 2: 8,9
The born again person experiences a release of the "grip" of sin on his entire being because one of the "YOUs" that constitute his makup is already perfected ..... in this life.
With these ideas in mind Galatians 5 really comes alive:
"This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh."
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.