I saw two brothers this morning next to the main train station in Liverpool city centre this morning. They were not actively approaching anyone. What I found strange was that they were from a cong that has different territory, so I don't know why they were there.
Anyway I knew them both, and they know I was Df'd, I was in my car and couldn't park up for a chat, but I did beep and wave to them as I drove passed and they waved back. If I was on foot I would have approached them and told them why I had left and why I don't want to get RI'd. It woould have given them something to think about. One is a elder, who has loads of priviledges and kids get away with murder. The other is a brother who keeps getting held back and who's son has left, and SIL has left. Maybe I caould have planted some seeds of doubt.
Even though I am Df'd I care about them and their families a lot, and they would not have been able to avoid the conversation and actively shun me in public as the street was busy. I don't want to adhere to WT rules of shunning and want to be aknowleged as a human being.
My daughter is the opposite. She avoids and ignores them at all costs, unless they approach her and she politely and briefly says she doesn't go anymore. She has cut ties with WT and just wants to move forward and keep her business private. She has faded so she can speak to whomever she wishes, but she would rather avoid them at all costs. We are all different. I am resolved not to make any type of contact with JWs when I am with my daughter as I don't want to cause her any stress.
To approach or ignore what is your preference and why?
Kate xx