oh cr@p!! its my turn for "an elder called and wants to arrange a shepherding call" thread. Moral support please. (page 2)

Frazzled UBM

If push comes to shove and he won't leave you alone, let him know that his presistent calling is harrassment and get legal advice and let him know you are getting legal advice

Witness My Fury

Learn to say no, it's a very useful life skill.

No explanation is needed and if pressed for one you dont need to give it.

It's a great way to take control of your life.

I have told them this when they ask if I'd like a meeting with them, "I have spent way more time thinking about my situation than any of you guys have. I've looked at things from every angle and even prayed about it. Thank you for asking butIt would probably be a waste of time that I don't have. Please give me a rain check, I may take you up on your kind offer on a later date."

i still go to a lot of the boasting sessions with my wife. I like being able to talk with the people there. I keep my opinions on touchy subjects to myself.

but that's just me. You may want to blow up all of the bridges!

sparrowdown

If he has left "the ball in your court" by asking you to let him know, you don't have to do anything.

He probably wont try again. He did his "duty" he can "tick his box" now.

KateWild

For me, I love being able to tell them how I feel about their actions and policies. It's cathartic for me and who knows I may trigger an elders need to do some independent research. But for you it might be quite different.

From your post, MissFit, you sound like you don't want to speak to the elders, so just ignore them.

Take care

Kate xx

blondie

Don't "put him off" with an open-ended excuse.

Just say no politely and stick to it. If he or any other keep calling, block their calls, let it ring through, get caller ID, don't answer the door especially when they drop by at their convenience not yours. Don't give any explanations and you end the conversation politely and shut the door. Never invite them in. Tell them when you need a visit you will contact them. NO calls at work (or visits either...if it starts feeling like stalking, get some support from work and friends)

Stick to your guns; remember they only have the control you give them.

Blondie (inactive 12 years, no visits or calls for 9 years, with only 3 contacts the first year, 2 the second, 1 the third.

breakfast of champions

Ignore them, and if they somehow try to corner you, i.e. show up at your house unexpected, tell them "Thanks but I would prefer not to. Have a good day gentlemen"

AndDontCallMeShirley

The best thing to do is ignore them. They'll quickly lose interest.

If they press you, say that what you really need right now is money.....you'll never hear from them again.

new hope and happiness

They think you belong to them. Ignor them and when the power is gone, you will be forgotten. May take a while, but ignore them. They are not worth it.

DesirousOfChange

If he has left "the ball in your court" by asking you to let him know, you don't have to do anything.

He probably wont try again. He did his "duty" he can "tick his box" now.

There is the best answer IMO.

IF they do try to call again, don't answer.

IF they happen to stop by and knock on the door, don't answer. (IOW Don't answer ANY knock on the door for now.)

IF they happen to catch you outside leaving or getting home, don't be rude but be brief. MUST GO. MUST run inside, forgot something, and leave again. Be LATE LATE LATE to get where you're going. Thank them for their concern. Maybe you'll try to make it Sunday for the CO. (Cough Cough BS BS)

Doc

oh cr@p!! its my turn for "an elder called and wants to arrange a shepherding call" thread. Moral support please.